This is part 2 of the very first Deliverance File, about removing shame and restoring honor. If you haven’t already done so, you can read the first post in this series here.
So you’ve made a list of all the people who have shamed you. Is it a long list? I know mine sure was. Years ago, when I went through deliverance myself, I had dozens and dozens of people on my list–people who had shamed me, bullied me, ridiculed me, and ostracized me.
But you know what? As I worked through each one, I received healing from the Holy Spirit in each area of my heart. I was a different person afterward.
You will be different, too, beloved–if you are willing to do your part and let the Holy Spirit heal you.
In part 1 of this series, we talked about how God wants to remove shame from your life and restore you to honor. The process has several parts:
- Make a list of all the people who have shamed you.
- Receive the ministry of the Holy Spirit to heal your heart for each of those situations. (I’m going to talk more about how in the next post in this series.)
- Forgive the person who hurt and shamed you. (We’ll talk more about that later as well.)
- Confess and repent for any bitterness and unforgiveness in your own heart toward each person. Ask God to forgive you for YOUR sin in holding onto bitterness and unforgiveness.
- Pray for the person who hurt you, and ask God to forgive them and draw them to Himself.
Now that you’ve made your list, let’s talk about how to receive the ministry of the Holy Spirit into your heart in each situation.
Receiving the ministry of the Holy Spirit is simple. It’s all about casting your cares on Him and receiving His truth in place of the enemy’s lies.
What does that mean? Well, the Bible tells us over and over that when we present our burdens, worries, pain, stress, anxiety, hurt, and all other problems to the Lord, He will take care of them and relieve us of the burden. We don’t have to carry them at all–not even for one moment. We can find complete peace and rest if we will but give our worries to the Lord.
First Peter 5:7 tells us:
“Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.”
and Matthew 11:28-30 says:
“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
And finally, Philippians 4:6-7 tells us:
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Notice how 1 Peter 5:7 also says we have to humble ourselves before the Lord. A HUGE part of humbling yourself before the Lord is accepting that His Word is truth and your thoughts are not. That’s why 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 tells us that we have to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ:
For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ…”
When you cast your hurts, cares, wounds, burdens, and anxieties on Jesus, He will take them away from you. And when you receive His truth in place of those hurts and lies, He will heal you. God sends His Word to heal your disease (Psalm 107:20).
So when you sit down to pray through each person on your list who has shamed you, here’s what you do:
1. Tell the Lord all about it.
Yes, He already knows. But the process of telling Him about it is for YOU, not Him. Pour out your heart to Him about whatever happened. Cast your burden upon the Lord, and He will sustain you (Psalm 55:22).
As you pray, ask Him to take away the hurt; ask Him to minister to you and comfort you. Then sit right there, focusing on JESUS, NOT ON YOUR HURT, and let the Holy Spirit speak to you and comfort you.
2. Forgive the person who hurt you.
Jesus said that if you do not forgive other people from your heart when they hurt you, your Father in Heaven will not forgive your sins. OUCH! That’s big. So you must forgive from your heart, even if it’s hard. (If you’re having trouble forgiving from your heart, ask God to change your heart and help you forgive like Jesus forgives.)
Pray this prayer to forgive those who hurt you:
Heavenly Father, in Jesus’ name, I choose to forgive _____ for _____. I choose to leave it, let it go, and give up all resentment. I lay this burden right now at Your feet, Heavenly Father, and by Your grace and mercy, I choose to not pick it back up anymore.
Father, in Jesus’ name, I confess that I have harbored bitterness, unforgiveness, and resentment toward this person. Lord, I confess my bitterness, unforgiveness, and resentment as sin. I have not loved them like I should have, and I confess my lack of love as sin also. Father God, in Jesus’ name, please forgive me for MY sin. Cover me with the blood of Jesus. Wash me clean. Fill me with the Holy Spirit, and make me like You in all things.
And now, Father, I pray for _____. Forgive them for _____. Cover them with the blood of Jesus. Wash them. Cleanse them. Make them pure and holy. Fill them with the Holy Spirit, and draw them closer to Yourself. Bless them, Father. In Jesus’ name, amen.
If you just prayed that prayer from your heart, you will feel burden rolling off your right away. You will have a new breath of air in your lungs–and that’s the Holy Spirit filling you up.
Thank You, Jesus!
Now on to step 3…
3. Let God restore you to double honor.
Refer back to the Scriptures in post 1 about how God gives you honor. Meditate on each of them awhile. Chew on them until you GET it in your spirit that God gives you honor, NEVER shame.
Then speak out this declaration/prayer:
Heavenly Father, in Jesus’ name, I thank You for giving me honor. Shame is never from you, and I refuse to accept it anymore.
So now, in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth and by the authority of His Word, I say to the spirit of shame: LEAVE ME right now in Jesus’ name! The Lord my God has said that instead of my former shame, I shall have double honor.
So Heavenly Father, in Jesus’ name, please fill me with Your double honor right now. Clothe me with honor and let me feel it. You, Lord, are my Glory and the Lifter of my head. You are the Restorer of my place of authority, and I accept Your Word that You have given me double honor instead of shame right now. Because Jesus paid the price to roll away the shame off of my life, I shall NEVER be put to shame anymore.
Thank You, Father, for restoring me to honor. Thank You that I am Your child, and You have put Your ring back on my finger and Your robe on my back. You have clothed me with Your cloak of honor, and I give You all the praise. Thank You, Father. In Jesus’ name. Amen!
If you will follow this process, your Daddy God–your loving, kind, generous Heavenly Father–will remove the shame and hurt from your life and restore you to honor.
Guaranteed. I’ve seen it work, over and over and over again. It worked for me, and I’ve seen it work for so many others. Why? Because the Word of God is true, every time. JESUS paid the price for you to be completely healed and free from shame.
So get alone with God. Walk yourself through these steps. Do it for each person or situation on your list.
And if you will, you will find yourself transformed.
Is this for you today? If so, please leave a comment below and let me know. I’d love to hear from you!
Recommended resources: Bishop T.D. Jakes has a mighty ministry to all Christians, but his words for women in his book Woman Thou Art Loosed! is life-changing. Grab your copy on Amazon and the Lord will use the truths contained therein powerfully in your life, as He did in mine!
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