How To Plead The Suffering Of Jesus Over Broken Relationships

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You can plead the suffering of Jesus over broken relationships! Here's how. By Jamie Rohrbaugh |

Do you have any broken relationships? If so, they can be healed… and all because of what Jesus suffered.

Two thousand years ago, Jesus Christ hung on a Roman cross.

Putting Jesus on the cross was not an arbitrary execution method. It was the method chosen by God to inflict the utmost suffering on Jesus, by which He could purchase complete and total wholeness for you and for me.

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    Including wholeness of relationships.

    We live in a world of imperfect people. And too often, friends, family members, acquaintances, ministry partners, and even people that we don’t know might say or do something that offends us. Then…

    • Anger and hurt creep in.
    • Unforgiveness and bitterness creep in.
    • And people that God intended to dwell in unity together become separated from each other by sin.

    Yet we know that God desires us to live in unity with our brothers and sisters in Christ. Check out these Scriptures:

    Start-quoteI do not pray for these alone, but also for those who will believe in Me through their word; that they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me.

    And the glory which You gave Me I have given them, that they may be one just as We are one: I in them, and You in Me; that they may be made perfect in one, and that the world may know that You have sent Me, and have loved them as You have loved Me” (John 17:20-23).

    “Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! It is like the precious oil upon the head, running down on the beard, the beard of Aaron, running down on the edge of his garments. It is like the dew of Hermon, descending upon the mountains of Zion; for there the Lord commanded the blessing — life forevermore” (Psalm 133:1-4).

    “Now I plead with you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you all speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same judgment” (1 Corinthians 1:10).

    “Therefore if there is any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and mercy, fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind” (Philippians 2:1-2).

    Our Father desires us to live in total, holy unity with one another.

    We are to agree with Him first and foremost, in every area–His commands, Who He says He is, and what He says about us–and then, in that state of perfect unity with Him in Christ, we are also to live in unity and agreement with one another.

    How beautiful our lives would be if we would actually do that!

    But do we? So often, we do not. And pain sets in, for we miss the unity of the Spirit with our brothers and sisters, even if we don’t know we do.

    But your relationships can be healed today.

    That family member you’re estranged from? You can talk and love again. That church member you’re mad at? You can forgive and be brought back together. It doesn’t matter what has happened; I’ve got good news for you today. That good news is:

    Jesus Christ paid the price on the cross for your broken relationships to be healed.

    How do I know this?

    Because Psalm 22–the Psalm of the cross–tells us this:

    Start-quoteI am poured out like water, and all My bones are out of joint; My heart is like wax; it has melted within Me” (Psalm 22:14).

    Did you get that? Do you see the key to unity in that verse?

    Here’s how Christ paid for our broken relationships to be mended:

    All of Jesus’ bones were out of joint. His bones were literally dislocated, and that dislocation paid the price for your relationships and mine to be healed.

    You see, the cross was a Roman version of the medieval rack. Lancelot Andrewes, an English bishop and scholar who lived from 1555-1626, put it this way (quoted from Spurgeon’s commentary on the Psalms):

    Start-quoteThe rack is devised as a most exquisite pain, even for terror. And the cross is a rack, whereon he was stretched till, saith the Psalm, “all his bones were out of joint.” But even to stand, as he hung, three long hours together, holding up but the arms at length, I have heard it avowed of some that have felt it, to be a pain scarce credible.”*

    Spurgeon also quotes another 16th-century scholar, Fra. Thomas of Jesus, as follows:

    Start-quoteWe know that the greatest and most intolerable pain that the body can endure, is that arising from a bone out of its place, or dislocated joint. Now when the Lord was raised up upon the cross, and His sacred body hung in the air from the nails, all the joints began to give, so that the bones were parted the one from the other so visibly that, in very truth (as David had prophesied) they might tell all his bones, and thus, throughout His whole body, He endured acute torture.”*

    You can watch a part of this terrible scene depicted in The Passion Of The Christ here (and the dislocation scene starts at 1 minute in):

    Jesus’ body, like your body, was designed to be in unity with itself. Jesus’ body was created to be closely knit together with no separation between the various parts. And yet His body was torn apart. His bones could not stand the strain, and He had to endure the agony of bodily separation.

    Why are Jesus’ dislocated bones the key to mending your broken relationships?

    Remember that everything Jesus suffered paid the price for you and me to have wholeness in some area. Well, in this situation, Jesus’ body represents the Church–His entire Body of believers across the ages and around the world.

    Colossians 1:18 tells us:

    Start-quoteAnd He is the head of the body, the church, who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead, that in all things He may have the preeminence.”

    God knew that His people would operate in disunity sometimes.

    Disunity set in way back in the Garden of Eden, so this was nothing new! It is, however, sin. It is horrible. It is painful and hurtful. And God wants better for us.

    So He made Jesus pay the price. Jesus actually took the ripping apart of His Body–the Church–upon Himself in His physical body. And the dislocation of His joints paid the price for relationships within His Body, the Church, to be brought back together.

    And since Jesus paid the price for relationships to be brought back together, YOUR broken relationships can be mended today.

    Jesus’ suffering in this area is the legal evidence you can present to God in prayer to ask Him to bring healing to your relationships. And if you will pray, He will answer. You may have to humble yourself. You may have to reach out. You will–(gasp!)–have to apologize if you’ve done something wrong. (You may have to apologize even if you haven’t done anything wrong!)

    But when Jesus paid the price for disunity to be healed, He paved the way for your friendships, family relationships, and every other relationship to be restored.

    Are you ready to pray? Pray this with me:

    Heavenly Father, I come before You in Jesus’ name. Father, I love You. Thank You for sending Your Son Jesus to die for me and pay the price for my sin.

    Lord Jesus, thank You for enduring this suffering on my behalf. I could never have paid the price myself, and You bought me back so I could be Yours, and part of the Father’s family, and part of Your Body. Thank You.

    Father God, I believe what Your Word says about the sacrifice of Jesus. I believe that Jesus’ sacrifice is sufficient for everything I need. I believe that Jesus paid the price for everything in my life to be brought back into a state of wholeness.

    Lord Jesus, according to Your Word, Your bones were ripped out of joint. You took all disunity upon Yourself. You suffered and died in a state of disunity so I could live in unity with the other members of Your Body. Father, I choose to agree with Your Word on this matter right now, and I receive what You have done for me.

    So Father God, in Jesus’ name, I present the sacrifice of Jesus to You. I plead the suffering and sacrifice and disjointedness of Jesus over my relationship with _____. You see that our relationship is broken. We are separated and dis-united, Father. But Jesus paid the complete price for this relationship to be healed.

    So Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus, I ask right now that You would bring me back together into unity and agreement, in Christ and in every godly way, with my brother/sister in Christ. Please heal this relationship.

    Father, if I’m supposed to do something to help bring the healing about, then Father, please show me what to do. Give me a humble and broken heart so that I can say the right words to this person. 

    If I need to apologize for anything at all, please break me with sorrow for the situation and show me how to apologize. Open the door for me to approach this person. Make a time for us to talk. Open his/her heart to receive my repentant heart and words, and I pray You would give them godly sorrow over our disunity too.

    Father, in the name of Jesus, make _____ and I ONE in Christ again. Bring brotherly love and kindness into our relationship again. Let us each think not of ourselves and our own interests, but only about the interests of others. Let us prefer the other person above ourselves, and let us love and give ourselves for the other person.

    Father, I plead the suffering and sacrifice and disjointedness of Jesus over this situation, and I say:

    Unity from God, come forth in my relationship with ____ Jesus’ name! Love of God, come forth in my relationship with ____ in Jesus’ name! Restoration from God, come forth in my relationship with ____ in Jesus’ name! Forgiveness from God, come forth in my relationship with ____ in Jesus’ name!

    Father, thank You. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. I believe that You will heal this relationship because Your Word says it should be healed, and because Jesus paid the price. Thank You, Father, and thank You, Lord Jesus. I love You, and I bless You for it.

    In Jesus’ name. Amen!

    No matter what the source of your relationship is, it can be healed.

    I don’t know what you will want your relationship with the person to look like–and what they will want their relationship with you to look like–after the healing occurs; but no matter what, the disunity and strife in your life can be healed. Your relationships can be mended.

    And it’s all because Jesus Christ paid the price; it’s all due to the suffering of Jesus.

    Does this message encourage your heart today? If so, please leave a comment below! I’d love to hear your thoughts!

    Note: Post #1 in this series contains a free infographic and bookmark about 10 things Jesus purchased for you with His suffering. I also released a new, downloadable MP3 teaching in post #1 that contains me teaching about all of these 10 things, line-by-line through Isaiah 53.

    If you haven’t gotten that MP3 teaching, you’ll want it. It will really help you get a revelation about everything Jesus purchased for you… and those 10 points are different from the points I’m covering in the rest of this series. Click here to go directly to the MP3 teaching on my Gumroad store.

    *As quoted in Charles Spurgeon’s commentary on the Psalms, “The Treasury of David” from Hendrickson Publishers, Peabody, MA. Page 343.


    1. Rafael-Olivier Somma says:

      Heartbreaking. Totally heartbreaking to see Jesus suffer so much.

      1. Yes, it is. And He did it all for you, and me, and all who would come to Him. Greater love has no man than this!

        1. Penelope ware says:

          Thanking your u Jaime for these powerful prayers and wisdom!!! Praying these prayers over my beloved sister Sally whose clinically depressed. I love her so very much?✝️??

    2. PrayingWoman says:

      I love your site. I used to think it was spam, but you have some good, biblically sound stuff here.

      1. Hi PrayingWoman. Well I’m very glad you don’t think it’s spam now. 🙂 Thanks for the encouragement and I’m glad Papa used my blog to bless you! Thank you for reading!

    3. This teaching has ministered greatly to my heart. Right now (and for many years) I am the only one serving the Lord in my household. God has spoken great and precious promises to me but I am still thanking Him for the manifestation. My 26 year old grandson and my husband are in business together. My grandson cannt get a grip on his spending and my husband goes ballistic over it. They just h ad a loud argument and I am in my bedroom binding and loosing and praying. I saw your teaching almost immediately and prayed this for them. My heart feels peaceful. Thanks.

      1. Wow, Susan, thank you so much for letting me know. I’m so sorry that your family is going through that. May Papa increase strength to you as you pray. The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run into it and are safe. I pray He would keep you safe in Himself as He shows Himself to be your Strong Tower. Thank you for reading my blog.

    4. Hi Jamie… your blog posts are the best. I so appreciate how much God has used them in my life. And this post is no different. I am currently going through a most horrific period in my life. My husband has left me many times over for other women for many years. 2 weeks ago he dumped me on the other side of the world and literally left me for dead in the desert. Through a series of kind miracles from God I was able to get out and fly home. I have come home and there has not been any follow up phone call, text or anything that even shows he cares that I did not die out there. Today I changed my phone number… after having given up my address… meaning he literally has no ability to contact me anymore. I feel thoroughly defeated. But I read your blog and prayed the prayer of healing over my relationship with him because it is so wrong that satan should win in a Christian marriage. Tomorrow I am beginning a 30 day fast over my situation. It will be long and difficult for me because my job is quite physical yet I feel it very necessary. Thank you for this post… from the bottom of my bruised heart :-). Angela

      1. Aww, Angela, thank you so much for your encouraging words! 🙂 I am so, so sorry you are going through this. I’m concerned about you and I prayed for you this morning. I pray Papa would give you wisdom, guidance, and direction right now, and bring you into His perfect will for your life in every area. Psalm 32:8: “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye.” Blessings and comfort to you, dear sister.

    5. My husband Jeffrey moved out and has filed for divorce. He has had an unusual amount of communication with a woman named Courtney, he met during his group therapy that he was attending for ptsd. He even took one of our daughter’s out to dinner with the woman and her children, while i stayed at home broken by this sudden announcement of a divorce. I had been praying for God to heal my marriage before this all took place and am praying for total restoration of my marriage. I prayed the prayer above… i just don’t know if i only need to pray this once or every night? Please help … I’m a novice at prayer and only recently accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord & Savior …

      1. Kim, I am so, so sorry you are going through this. May the God of all comfort minister to you right now, comfort you, and strengthen you. As far as prayer goes, the more prayer the better – but it doesn’t have to be this prayer alone; just pour out your heart to God every day and you will find that He is right there with you, loving you, holding you, and wrapping His arms around you. I will pray for you. No matter what, Papa God loves you so very, very much and He is with you right now. He will never, never leave you and He will work out everything you are going through for your good.
        Love in Christ,

    6. Thank you so much for this. Right now me and my friend are not talking. It’s been a year that we haven’t talk. He doesn’t want nothing to do with me because of this situation. I know that he is hurt and he needs to heal. I truly love him and I see him like a brother. I know God is going to restore out friendship. I’m believing for great things and I know that this restoration is going to glorify God. Thanks again, God can restore anything.

    7. Yes I believe God can restore my friendship. Thank you so much for this post.

    8. diana mbugua says:

      have prayed this prayer with faith that no matter what God will bring.back heal my relationship with my boyfriend for to months know separation.

    9. Thank you so much for continuing to encourage us through God’s Word. My husband and I are separated and after praying this morning I was looking through my emails and I found this email from you. Please continue to do this work for others through Jesus Christ… you have no idea how many people you are helping and encouraging. I’ve felt this way many times and just haven’t emailed you but please be encouraged to continue. You are truly making a difference. Please pray for my marriage and the very difficult situation we are in and I will pray for you and your ministry. God Bless You

      1. Thank you so much for your sweet encouragement, Tonya. It really means a lot. All glory to God!

        1. Thank you Jamie. God bless you. I have sent you several emails but no reply. How can I reach you. Please reply. Thanks

    10. Bert Smith says:

      Hello Jamie, I love being part of your Ministry, and today’s message was awesome, I prayed the prayer 3 times over different situations, keep doing what you’re doing, in the Name of Jesus, much love and many blessings to you all, in Jesus:)

    11. Jamie,

      This message was simply beautiful and such an on time word & prayer that I needed for this exact moment in my life. Thank you and I thank God for his willing vessel that always has an on time word for His people.

    12. Pauline Borgan says:

      Thank you, Jamie for these words. Praying for healing and restoration of the body of Christ. I can’t imagine the pain our Father feels when His children are not together as one body. Blessings to all.

    13. Prayed this prayer standing in the gap for one family member then my own “right or wrong” relational misgivings and even though it hurts to be hurt I remember what Jesus said as he was on that cross having nails driven into His hands, “Father forgive them for they know not what they do”. Same for Stephen who was martered w stones (?) “Father forgive them”. That’s what I am to do and sometimes I have to wrestle w it when I feel justified. One trick Ive learned is to pray for said person for 30 days no matter how I feel…. I pray for them to have everything I want and usually I pray for love, joy and peace and true love of man and God to be given and for them to give….Ive been thru the husband thing and ouch the worst pain ever and I’m just sayin the husband and wife represent the body it’s probanly the worst there is…we were two become one become two :(… if ur standing stand and maybe Kay Kerr has some soul breaks my prayers on iTubeU that can help too during the separation. I prayed what I felt led to pray for you all and my heart goes out to you!

    14. My husband left me for another woman who he met in his business. We are separated and planning to file for a divorce next year. My husband broke my heart which has a wound that will never heal. I trusted this man after 28 years of marriage he said he married a wrong person and OW is the right one. I thank you so much for this prayers. When I pray it it gives me a comfort and hope that one day my husband will came back to me and my boys.
      Thank you so much.

    15. I must correct you Jamie, the medieval period (Middle Ages) came after the Roman period which belonged to Antiquity…

    16. Jamie, I am so glad I came across your site a while back. I was skeptical at first. But after receiving daily encouraging prophetic words from you that truly touched me; in a way that I needed so much. I am so thankful and grateful for you. Not to mention; your words that you minister often resonates so much with what I am going through in my life. I have gone through so much in my life over the past year, dealing with a husband whom after 25 years, decided to cheat with a young co-worker, and left me while disabled & with 4 children and a financial burden. It’s just funny how I came across your site at the right time in my life. Because it encouraged me that what I truly needed was GOD in my life all the time, and not some of the time. So although it is hurtful and painful for me and my children, It opened my eyes to what was even more important in my life. …which is putting GOD first. I know that through Christ anything is possible. I pray everyday that God will fix my relationship for my good, and I forgive my husband and Pray that God will help him find his way through Christ as well. I am once again making Father God my Lord And Savior! Thanks to your encouragement and inspirational words!! God Bless You & your family Jamie! Keep up your good work! You are truly a Blessing!

    17. Alicia Datnow says:

      I really needed to read this and needed such beautiful words of encouragement that God can heal my broken relationship and family. My husband of 22 years walked out on my 4 boys and I and has met another woman. I wasn’t a good wife I know and didn’t respect and love my husband like I should have. I allowed to many family and friends dictate to me how I should control and boss my husband around. I realise now how wrong I was. I repent everyday to God and to my hisband. I have gone down on my knees to God and cried rivers of tears and believe God has forgiven me. I pray everyday for Andrews return and I plead the blood of JESUS AGAINST that relationship and against that woman and believe God will bring him home and soften his heart to see his boys and I need and want him back home. I have been going for counseling too and am changing my ways. God has spoken to me and told me how I need to change. I love Andrew and my boys with all my heart and believe God can heal our broken family. Thank you for the inspiration.

    18. Glenn Levito says:

      Please pray for me. My girlfriend Debbie, my soulmate decided after two and a half years of what I thought was a wonderful relationship with not only her but her entire family to end our relationship. I am devastated and finding difficulty to function. I feel as if I just exist. I’m 55 years old and find it impossible to deal with the pain. I pray this prayer and others daily. Thank you.

    19. Divinefavor Osinloye says:

      Amen and AMEN.

      I Pray that Father God will give me the wisdom, boldness, and supernatural anointing of my ease and appointment for this process to take place – with joy, forgiveness Grace and Shalom multiplied to it -In Jesus’ Name, AMEN.

    20. To God be ALL the glory!! Well timed for me… So grateful for this prayer in Jesus name! Thank you, Father God, Thank you Jesus, and Thank you Holy Spirit! Amen and Hallelujah. Amen and Hallelujah. Amen and Hallelujah!!!

    21. Thank you again. Your teachings are always right on time. I’m going through a difficult time because my Sisters in Christ believe the gossip being spread about me. But I believe God will restore these relationships. I believe. Praise the name of the Lord.

    22. Thank you so much for this Jamie. Your posts has been a blessing to me. This prayer gives me comfort cos I have been unlucky with my relationships…no matter how kind n nice I am, people jus want to take advantage of my nature and never genuinely care about me. They only come around wen they need something from me. This hurts alot n I have asked to lord for jus one friend who will love me just for me not for the benefits they intend to get. This situation makes me stay on my own more or less and I don’t like it. I believe that God will send a godly friend my way soon. Thanks

    23. Jamie,

      Thank you for reposting this very humbling & encouraging post. It has given me the courage to not only continue praying for certain family members of whom I have been estranged from but to be courageous enough to return to pray for restoration of these relationships — in whatever form and at whatever level is in our best interest and is the healthiest.

      Thank you so much for your willingness to open your heart, mind, and spirit into God’s Word and for pouring out your heart to all of us.

      You are such a tremendous gift!

    24. Henrietta says:

      Thank you so much Jamie! I needed this message. I thank God for using you as an instrument to make our lives and our relationships better! May the Lord protect you and your loved ones from every attack of the enemy and may His favor be upon you always!!! These messages are of far more value than I can put in words! God bless you, dear Sister!!!

    25. Please pray that God repair my broken relationship with my partner Ashraf .Things got to a point where we couldn’t even have a decent conversation anymore,The devil is a liar.Father you know my heart you see the pain that I’m going through,Father god I’m pleading at your feet to please take control of my relationship,father God please bring forgiveness In both our hearts,Father God please repair and restore my relationship with Ashraf in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.Amen

    26. MONGKUO Fiona says:

      I want to thank you for this wonderful prayer u published for some of us who are going through this trauma of broken relationship. My fiance broke up with me for more than a month’s now, upon all my pleading he says he doesn’t love me again and has nothing to do with me again. Having prayed this, I felt at peace and has encouraged me not to give up and to continue with this prayer over and over. I believe and trust the word of God, He will restore my relationship in Jesus’ Name!

    27. Thank you Jamie for giving me the idea to take another look at the movie Passion of the Christ. I think that it’s a good idea to take a look often as a reminder because with everything that is going on in the world right now I feel that my heart has become desensitized to a certain extent. Watching this movie again, brought it all back into perspective.

    28. Thank you Jamie for this wonderful prayer I am praying to mend my relationship with my long distant relationship, Please pray for reconciliation.

    29. Jamie, I need your prayers urgently to heal and restore my daughter and her boyfriend Ibraham’s relationship with marriage this year in Jesus’ name amen. Also for myself, I need my long-distance relationship with Morgan to be mended and for him to call me quite often in Jesus’ name amen. Also for my son and Kashima to reconcile their relationship with marriage this year in Jesus’ name amen. It is done What my God cannot do does not exist in Jesus’ name amen

    30. Bill Blackman says:

      I prayed the prayer, I need restoration with my girlfriend/future wife so our relationship can be healed and we can marry. Pray for me Jamie 😉

    31. This is powerful my relationship with my landlord has been rocky for quite a while I dont know why, I feel like he has something against me and is not telling me what it is, but God will mend this in Jesus name, even when God moves me to somewhere better. I know he will this month because it has already been spoken over my life praise be to God, our relationship will reach a new level in Jesus name Amen

    32. I am praying for God to restore my relationship with my wife, Alicia. She left on Mother’s Day 2021 and we were divorced in October of 2021. I did not want the divorce. Praying God heals and restores completely our marriage.

      1. Thank you for this prayer Jaime I prayed this prayer over my relationship with Steve to heal and restore our relationship and to humble his heart I believe in Faith and thank God in Jesus name Amen 🙏🏻♥️

    33. I believe and thank God that He will restore my relationship, I Jesus’ Name, Amen

    34. I declare healing, unity and restoration in my relationship. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

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