When Sexual Contact Leaves You Shattered

When Sexual Contact Leaves You Shattered, You Can Be Whole Again | FromHisPresence.comI wish I could tell you the stories of healing. They’re not mine to tell; but, oh, if you could hear them.

They are the stories of so many sisters and brothers who have talked with me, often weeping, over the hurt and pain they feel after past sexual contact–both voluntary and involuntary (e.g. in the case of abuse or molestation) left them shattered.

The stories of precious people who have been tormented by memories all their lives …

… OR who have choked back the hurt all their lives, only to have all that torment come raging to the surface.

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    All of them are precious, wounded daughters and sons of God. People who have been wounded so deeply, so terribly, by other people. Hurt by sin, and hurt by sinning people.

    Oh, beloved. If only I could tell you the stories. My heart breaks to think of it.

    But maybe you don’t need me to tell you the stories … because maybe you’ve lived the story yourself.

    Maybe you are one of those people who have had something precious stolen from you. Maybe you were tormented and abused. Maybe you have lived your whole life, unable to get rid of the memory. Unable to dispel those haunting thoughts.

    Or, maybe you are one of those people who have given something precious and beautiful away, only to regret it later. Only to find yourself wishing, years down the road, that you could undo those past mistakes.

    Beloved, if that describes you, YOU CAN BE WHOLE AGAIN.

    You can be healed. You can be free. Your soul can be healed. The continuous torment can cease. You can be healthy once more.

    I’ve seen people get free time and time again … using a little-discussed truth found in Scripture, the blood of Jesus, and the power of prayer.

    Does this describe you? Have you been tormented by memories of sexual contact that has left you shattered–whether through abuse or any other relationship?

    And if so, are you ready to get free?

    The little-known, little-studied truth that can set you free is found in 1 Corinthians 6:15-17, which says:

    Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For ‘the two,’ He says, ‘shall become one flesh.’ But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him” (1 Corinthians 6:15-17).

    What’s the significance of this Scripture?

    When the apostle Paul wrote this passage under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, he was chastising the Corinthian church for being involved in sexual sin. Some readers might look at that and think, “Well, I didn’t join myself to a harlot. I was abused, and I had no choice in the matter.”

    If you’re thinking that, stay with me, okay? The point I want to make applies whether sexual contact happened voluntarily or involuntarily (e.g. in molestation or abuse).

    Here’s the truth Paul wrote about that we don’t often understand:

    When a man and woman have sexual relations, the Bible says that they are taking their body parts and making them parts of the other person. Paul cites Genesis 2:24, which says:

    Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

    Jesus mentioned this same Scripture in Mark 10:8. So we know that, the way God engineered our bodies, when we are joined sexually to someone else, there is a literal joining. The two bodies become parts of one another.

    This is well and good within the safe boundaries of marriage as God intended it: one man and one woman, committed to each other in covenant for life.

    That joined-ness and unity that comes with marriage is a good and holy thing. That’s the way God intended marriage and sex to work.

    But the same truth also applies when someone abuses you sexually. It also applies when you have voluntary sexual relations with anyone who is not your spouse.

    The same principle is true whether you are inside a Biblical marriage or not. If someone forces himself or herself on you and you are victimized sexually, your body still becomes part of that person’s body and their body becomes part of yours. Even though you didn’t want for that to happen.

    And even if you have sexual relations voluntarily with someone who is not your spouse, you still become part of them, and they become part of you. That’s what the Bible says.

    In the case of abuse, of course, victims are traumatized from the start.

    But in voluntary cases, sometimes the trauma doesn’t begin until after the relationship fails …

    and you wish you could forget that person …

    and you wish you could stop being mad …

    and you wish you could forgive that person …

    and you want so badly to stop thinking about it …

    but you can’t.

    Beloved: the reason you can’t “just get over it” is because parts of that person are still attached to you!

    Even if you didn’t give your parts away voluntarily! Even if you were victimized! And even if you did give yourself to someone on purpose. Either way, unless you have already broken those parts off you through prayer, those parts are still attached to you!

    No wonder you can’t forget. No wonder you’re haunted by memories. No wonder you are still wounded, all these years later.

    Oh, but beloved. There’s good news too: Jesus is the Healer.

    And He’ll heal you right now.

    But whether you lost a part of yourself because you were victimized OR because of a voluntary act, Jesus can bring the pieces of you back together again.

    Because, in EVERY story I mentioned at the top of this blog post, Jesus brought healing to those tormented, often victimized individuals. Every time, He healed them in an immediately-noticeable-to-them way.

    How? Through a simple prayer.

    Now, I’m not saying the total healing process is simple. I am simply saying that this step is simple.

    The healing process, as we’ve already discussed in the series about healing from abandonment and rejection, is time-consuming. It’s worth it, but it’s time-consuming. I recognize that, and I’m not diminishing that in any way.

    However, you will be happy to hear that this particular step is simple. And if you have already prayed through to forgive from your heart (which is different than just saying “I forgive,”) and have already broken soul ties with the person who hurt you, then you’re ready for this step.

    So how I’ve seen Jesus heal so many people when sexual contact leaves them shattered:

    It’s a simple prayer; but it’s so, so effective. Oh beloved, I hope you will pray this prayer if you are hurting from sexual contact in the past.

    I’ll write a short, sample prayer below. First, though, I’ll tell you the basic gist of the prayer.

    In the prayer, you:

    • Confess any unconfessed sin to God. (E.g. If you have purposely had sexual relations with someone other than your spouse in a Biblical marriage, and you haven’t confessed that to God yet so you could receive forgiveness.)
    • Ask the Lord to forgive you for any sins you committed on your part, and to wash you clean in the blood of Jesus.
    • Ask Jesus to fill you with His Holy Spirit.
    • THEN, THE BIG PART: You ask Father God to bring back to you any parts of yourself that are with other people, washed in Jesus’ blood.
    • After that, you ask Father God to send back to other people all the parts of them that are with you, washed in Jesus’ blood.
    • Finally, ask Father to make you whole again and apply His healing Balm of Gilead to your body, soul, heart, and spirit; healing you so completely that there will not even be a scar.

    Beloved, it works. Holy Spirit showed me how to walk someone through this prayer before I had ever heard of anything like it, and it worked. The person felt immediate freedom. Later, when I began to study inner healing ministry, I found out that others are praying similar prayers in inner healing ministry.

    Because it works.

    Are you ready to be healed? Pray this sample prayer, and make it your own (applied to your own circumstances) as you pray:

    “Dear Heavenly Father,

    I come before You in Jesus’ name. Father, please show me any unconfessed sin in my heart right now. (If He shows you something, confess it here.)

    Father, please forgive me for these and every sin I have committed. Wash me clean in the blood of Jesus, and fill me with Your Holy Spirit. Thank You for forgiving me.

    Father God, Your Word says that parts of me are with other people with whom I’ve had sexual contact. Your Word also says that parts of those people are with me. Father God, I don’t want to carry those parts of other people around anymore. And I want to be healed and whole myself.

    So Father God, in Jesus’ name, I ask right now that You would bring back to me every part of me that is with anyone else, washed in Your blood, Jesus.

    And Father God, right now, I release into Your hands every part of every person I’ve had unholy sexual contact with. Please send those parts of those people back to those people, washed in Your blood, Jesus.

    Father, I am ready to be healed and whole. Please cover me with Your blood, Jesus. Apply Your healing Balm to my body, soul, heart, and spirit. Fill me with Your Holy Spirit. Let healing come so deeply, and thoroughly right now that there will not even be a scar.

    Thank You, Lord Jesus. Thank You for paying the price for me to be free. Thank You for shedding Your blood so that I can have access to You and pray this bold prayer. I believe You have answered, and I thank You that I have received.

    In Jesus’ name. Amen.”

    Now take a deep breath. Beloved, Jesus just answered your prayer, because He said He would!

    Dear friend, there is healing in the name of Jesus–and there’s POWER in His blood.

    Even if you’ve been terribly wounded, Jesus can heal you. He can put all your pieces back together again in beautiful, healed YOU. Ask Him to do this, and He will.

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    1. That was me, but thank you Jesus for dying for me on the cross so that I could be healed and free. ? God is so good He just went in and did deep supernatural surgery. I AM FREE at last Hallelujah !!!!!!! Bless you Jesus and Jaime

    2. When i was a little girl i was victimized by a family member. I have tried to forgive…then a few years ago i finally confronted this person. Their response was hurtful which made me very angry and i didnt speak to that person for many years.
      Now i have forgiven that person but the issue is…well…from time to time i have nightmares about happened. When i do have i wake up feeling like that scared little girl all over again. Then i have a hard time looking at that family …

      1. I understand your pain the same thing happened to me but by my stepfather. I was a teenager at the time. I was als victimized by 6 adults when I was in my mid twenties. I blamed myself for the occurence by now I realized it was not my fault. I am starting on a forgiveness process. These occurences has hurt me in many ways. It mainly hurt my relationships with others. Hon Jesus suffered for you. Image him helping you through this. I am sometimes a frieghted teenage and young adult. I will add you to my prayers. If you need to talk just reply. I want to help you also.

        1. Thank you much…and honestly i do need to someone about this.When the nightmares reoccure i get so emotional but i never talk to anyone about it….then i shut down from alot of ppl..
          May i leave email on here??? Its Dominguezcharlene612@gmail.
          If its not allowed on here…my apologies

    3. Rebecca L Jones says:

      I pray that this helps many people. I can’t even comprehend it.

    4. Christine says:

      Thank you God, Jesus and Holy Spirit for helping me once more when I most needed it.

      I feel lighter.

      The Lord has been working on me extensively recently and one of the things that had been coming up is the pain of molestation, rape and worldly relationships gone wrong.

      I’d been experiencing pains behind my left breast, my heart and in my back behind my heart for the past two weeks and heaviness in my left arm.

      I feel light. I just had a few sharp pulls behind my left breast, weird dull feeling around my heart in that area that is now disappearing – I feel so goooooood!!!

      I know I am being healed and I am grateful to God.

      Thanks Jamie for your obedience.

    5. Catherine says:

      Me, baptized 24 years. Spoke about things that happened to me as a child and no one offered this prayer. Powerful and awesome. I’m going to pray later in my room. Thank you lord Jesus Christ, thank you again for Jamie xxx

    6. Tammy Gilbert says:

      Thank you so much for this prayer that I oh so badly needed in my life, Ive been longing and wondering how to be set free from those memories of past hurts if sexual assault at a very young age and many other horrible things thru sex I experienced while on my own , I am now set free after all these yrs of carry these haunting thoughts and memories I’ll be 51yrs old Apr.26 and now God has sent you with this prayer Im feeling overwhelmed with joy and peace my eyes fill with tears just knowing that The Father has given me away out of that torment and mental paun May God bless you and your ministry 100 fold .

    7. I do not agree with the above interpretation. If Christ’s members shall not become part of a harlot then they most certainly shall not become members of what is much worse than a harlot namely a child abuser or a rapist. A whore harms no one but her or himself, and owing to gender discrimination a promiscuous man isn’t even recognised as a whore while people quickly discriminate a similar woman as a whore.

      When Christ said that a man & woman become one flesh in mariage he meant permanently one flesh due to the marriage not due to sexual contact. It is absolutely false & potentially very damaging to say that a rapist becomes one flesh with a child or adult victim. Christ has said he will not make one of his members a part of a harlot then he most certainly has never made any child nor adult part of a rapist.

      1. You are welcome to disagree, Anne, but you are not interpreting the passage correctly. The passage, if you read the context, is Paul instructing us NOT to get involved in sexual sin because we are not to join ourselves with other people who are not our spouse.

        This instruction was needed because Paul was writing to people in very pagan cultures. Sexual purity was not a cultural norm like it was in Israel. In the Gentile countries, the people were accustomed to using temple prostitutes and other sexual practices as part of religion. Paul was having to teach them what purity was, and what was God’s plan for sexuality.

        The Scripture does very much say that sexual contact joins two bodies together as one. This happens whether people wish it to or not. It is how human bodies were created. That is why people find themselves suddenly free after asking Jesus to bring all their parts back together again.

        I’ve seen people get free by praying this simple prayer over and over again–with dramatic, life-altering freedom that completely changes their outlook, relationships, attitudes, and more. It’s a beautiful thing to see Jesus do this for someone.

    8. Elizabeth says:

      If someone would have told me that I would have been left shattered from past sexual contact, it would have been hard to believe because I made those choices.

      However, for the past 2 years I have been left broken. Jesus is healing me and yes that it has taken 2 years, can be discouraging but this prayer, was helpful.

    9. Thank you Jesus for healing me and making me whole again , in the Name of Jesus Christ amen
      Was abundantly blessed by this article , the prayer is powerful. Thank you for posting andGod bless

      1. Glory be to Jesus! I am faithful in knowing I am forgiven for my sexual improprieties. Thank you God for giving your son so that We can all be washed clean from things that have held me in bondage for years. I am believing in full restoration of my soul. Thank you for your teachings Jamie. God Bless you.

    10. Thank you Jamie. This was an eye opener for me. Painful to relive but beneficial for my marriage. I needed to read this and pray this prayer. Praying that God will make me whole that I will quit trusting in others other than my husband and help me to set up healthy boundaries so I won’t put myself in situations that I don’t need to be in no matter what the case may be. Thank you Jesus in advance for answering my prayer

    11. TABITHA SEKOATI says:

      Thank you Lord Jesus for cleansing us from all unrighteousness, including sexual immoralities.

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