During my quiet time this morning, the Lord gave me this list of 13 signs we're not hearing God, pretty much every time. If something you or I believe is producing these fruits, it's not from the Lord. I wanted to share these with you real quick, as I thought you may find this helpful.
Here are the 13 signs you're not hearing God:
3- Hardness, unwillingness to yield
4- Pointing the finger at someone else
5- Strife and conflict
8- Unwillingness to listen
10- Lack of love
13- Being stubborn and refusing to repent and abandon all of the above
Interesting that there are 13. Thirteen is the Biblical number meaning rebellion.
Note: I received a comment below from a reader expressing concern that considering these signs could cause people to stay in abusive situations. I'd like to address that.
No blog post can cover every potential circumstance that a person can come across. This blog post is merely meant to provide some red flags that should show you, as they do me, when we're believing something that is not from the Lord.
I've dealt with situations in ministry a number of times in which people were being abused. If that's you, you need to get out of the abusive situation and get help. Do not let yourself become a statistic.
But this blog post isn't about abuse.
This blog post is about how to recognize when something we're hearing and believing is NOT from the Lord. These signs are based on Scripture. The Bible tells us:
Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; do not fret—it only causes harm” (Psalm 37:8).
“So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:19-20).
And Galatians 5:19-25:
“Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.”
The Bible tells us in no uncertain terms that bitterness, unforgiveness, anger, and the like are all evil.
There are many more Scriptures that confirm this. These negative emotions are not born out of righteousness and they do not lead to righteousness.
If you're in an abusive situation, will you be angry? Very likely, anger will be your natural response, as the reader pointed out below; but we're not after our natural responses. We're after supernatural responses, and we can't confuse godly emotions and responses with having healthy boundaries. The two are not related.
You need good, healthy boundaries. If you're being abused or mistreated, you need to get away to a safe place and get help. Abuse is not okay, and knowing that and doing something about it means you have a boundary, which is good.
But even while you're sticking to your boundaries, the Word of God is still true, and we must seek to conform to His character in every situation.
That means we forgive. Even if you're being abused, you must forgive for your own sake and for Jesus' sake. Forgiveness does NOT mean you have to go back into the situation AT ALL. But forgiveness releases you from prison and allows Father God to work on your behalf (Matthew 18:35).
For the same reason, no matter what we're going through, we love. We refrain from casting blame. (Even if something is someone's fault, I've never seen any good come of it ever when someone points the finger and says, “It's her fault! It's his fault!”)
If we're going to respond in a godly manner, and someone hurts us, we release and let go. We pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord (Hebrews 12:14).
So. Forgiveness and love are simply the way of Jesus, and this post is about helping us discern when we're picking up something that's not from Jesus.
Satan, the accuser of the brethren, always wants to bring strife, division, and unforgiveness. He will try to convince you things about other people that aren't true. He will try to convince you that other people need to do XYZ in order for you to be all right. He will try to convince you that your anger, bitterness, and unforgiveness are justified.
But they're not. Those things are all sin, and if you believe the enemy's lies, he will take you down in a heartbeat.
How do you overcome the accuser of the brethren?
As soon as you notice one of these red flags in your life, ask the Holy Spirit to convict you of every wrong response in your heart. Ask Him to change your heart. Forgive on purpose, and keep on forgiving until you feel that forgiveness in your heart.
It's not about boundaries. You need boundaries, and you need to be safe. But you ultimately are not responsible for the way people treat you. Their sin is their own, and vengeance belongs to God.
But you and I are always accountable for the way we respond in any given situation, and for keeping our hearts clean and pure before the Lord.
Hope this helps. 🙂 If this message speaks to your heart, would you leave a comment below? I'd love to hear from you.
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