A few days ago, I asked for your prayer requests, and prayer for healing a struggling marriage was one of the biggest needs you all let me know about. I have been praying through these requests, and I have a tremendous burden for your marriages.
So, I wanted to share a prayer for healing a struggling marriage today.
I encourage you to print this prayer off and pray it daily if your marriage is struggling.
By the way: I wrote this prayer in the wife's voice because all of the prayer requests I received for marriages were for women. However, I know we also have brothers in this community who are praying for their struggling marriage. If you're a husband, you can use this prayer too! Just adapt it for your wife.
Are you ready? I'm agreeing with you in this prayer for healing a struggling marriage:
“Father God, I come before You in Jesus' name.
Father, I thank You for my marriage. I thank You that, even though times are hard right now, You are in control and You can fix this. I thank You that even the hearts of kings are in Your hand, and You turn them wherever You wish … so You can FOR SURE help me now!
Father, I need help in my marriage.
Father, I can't handle the way things have been anymore, and I need Your help. So Father God, in Jesus' name, I ask You for the help I need.
Father, I lift up my husband to You.
Lord, I ask in Jesus' name that You would change his heart. Lord, please reveal any sin in his heart to him and convict him of it. I pray that You would fill my husband with Your Spirit. Fill him with Your Spirit of purity and holiness.
Father, I pray that my husband would hide Your Word in his heart, that he might not sin against You. I pray You would awaken him to righteousness and godliness. Make him hungry and thirsty for You. I pray that He would begin today to yearn for You and crave You more than he even craves food.
Help my husband to desire You, Lord. Help him to see how good You are. Show him Jesus, and let him be captivated with the beauty of Jesus. Shower him with Your goodness that leads men to repentance.
Father, I ask You to dethrone any idols in my husband's life.
If he puts his phone before You, then dethrone his phone.
If he puts his work before You, then dethrone his work.
If he puts his friends or other relationships before You, dethrone his friends and relationships.
If he puts his family before You, dethrone his family.
If he puts money before You, then dethrone money in his eyes.
If he puts keeping the budget before You, then dethrone the budget in his eyes.
Father, I pray in Jesus' name that my husband would receive Your love.
Shine Your love richly into his heart, and help him receive it. Fill him with Your Spirit of adoption. I pray that his spirit would cry “Abba, Father,” together with Your Holy Spirit in his heart. Help him to internalize Your love–to really know what is the height, depth, width, and breadth of Your love for him.
Father, I ask also that You would help him to love himself in a godly way. Don't let him love himself in any kind of idolatrous or unholy way, but cause him to love himself the way You want him to–and with the same love that You sowed into his heart; Your love.
Then, Father, I ask that my husband would love YOU back with Your same love, and would love others with Your love also.
Help me husband to love and prefer others as better than himself.
I ask that he would honor all people. I pray also that he would love and prefer others to himself; that he would serve others more than himself. I pray that my husband would love me as Christ loves the Church, and give himself for me.
Help me also to love my husband and submit myself to Him as to You, Lord; but please teach me Your godly definition of submission, so that I am not a doormat and do not suffer abuse or neglect in the name of submission.
Teach me what submission really looks like according to Your Word, and help my husband and I to give ourselves to one another unselfishly every day.
Father, make my husband humble.
Convict him of any pride in his heart. Convict him of self-reliance also. Show him his need for You and for me. Help him to see that he needs You and me and others. Show him that he needs friends, and make him willing to make the changes he needs to make in order to live in community and relationships, not thinking that he has all the answers.
Father, I ask that You would be gentle with my husband.
I ask that You would not discipline him in any way that brings disaster, pain, or hurt to him, to me, or to anyone else. Whisper in his ear and grip his heart with so much conviction that he yields before You right away. Make him moldable and pliable before You, Lord, so He will listen to Your gentlest corrections.
But, at the same time, I pray, Father, that You would also be as tough with him as You need to be in order to bring him into Your best for him with no more delay. He is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh, Lord, so I give You permission to deal with him and with me however You need to.
Father, if my husband is involved in any unholy relationships …
Then SEVER THOSE relationships right now in Jesus' name. Close every door in his life that is not from You, and open every door that IS from You.
If my husband is looking at any other woman than me, then close his eyes to those women. I pray that my husband would make a covenant with his eyes, that he would not look upon anything unholy.
Father, help my husband to discern the difference between the holy and the profane.
I pray he would know the difference between right and wrong, and would choose only right. Let him hear Your voice behind him, saying, “This is the way; walk in it;” and let him follow Your way and never turn to the left or to the right.
Father, I plead the blood of Jesus over his priorities. Line up his priorities with Your perfect will, in Jesus' name.
I plead the blood of Jesus over his decisions. Beginning this day, let him decide on the side of righteousness and holiness, every time he makes a decision.
I plead the blood of Jesus over my husband's mouth. Let no harsh word or critical word come forth out of his mouth. Instead, let only words of life flow out of his mouth. Father, I pray that only blessing would proceed out of my husband's mouth–only blessing, and not cursing.
Father, I plead the blood of Jesus over my husband's relationships. Let only godly and holy relationships be in his life from this day on.
I plead the blood of Jesus over my husband's body. Let him know that his body is Yours; that his body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, and that he is not his own. Let him know that he is bought with a price, and let him glorify God with his body.
Father, I pray these things for myself too.
(Go back and pray the things above for yourself, too. Then continue.)
Father, I pray for our marriage.
Father, let Your victory come forth in our marriage right now in Jesus' name. Let the unity of the Spirit and the bond of peace come forth. Let us each love and prefer one another as better than ourselves.
Father, I ask in Jesus' name that You would birth a love in our hearts for one another that surpasses the most fiery love we've ever had. Lord, set us on fire for You and for each other.
Teach us to love one another in the ways that are important to the other person. Help me to speak my husband's love language, and help him to speak mine.
Father, I ask in Jesus' name that You would remake, reshape, and remold our marriage.
Give us a new start. Help us both desire to save our marriage, and work in us both to will and to do Your good pleasure. Help us to do the work necessary to carry out Your will for our lives.
And Father, bring us the joy back.
Restore our sense of fun. Restore our enjoyment of just being together. Help us to forgive one another for everything we've been holding against one another. Love keeps no record of wrongs, Lord, so help us to let all past things go and to keep no record of wrongs, moving forward in real love for one another.
Father, help us to find fun things that we can do together. Teach us how to make healthy memories together.
Father God, I ask You to save our marriage and make it better than it ever was before.
Only You can do this, Lord, but You are God who makes all things new. So do it, Lord. Do it today, and tomorrow, and every day. Help us to stick with You and stick with the restorative process. Give us patience one toward another, Father, and patience as You work in us.
Thank You, Father. Thank You for hearing and answering my prayer. I give You all the glory and all the praise.
In Jesus' name, amen.”
This prayer is certainly not comprehensive, so please add to it or alter it to fit your needs. Just use your own words and ask Holy Spirit to help you pray. He always will!
Does this prayer help you as you lift up your struggling marriage to the Lord? If so, please leave a comment below!