What To Do With Depression, Part 5: Make the Hard Decision
Welcome back to our series about What To Do With Depression. If you haven’t already done so, please read Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, and Part 4 for vital information about how to heal from depression.
In this portion of the series, we are looking at key action steps that will help you heal from depression. In Part 4, we talked about Key Actions 1-4. (We are listing these in no particular order; they all help.) Today, we will only look at Key Action 5–but it might be the most important of all.
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Key Action 5 is to go ahead and make some difficult decisions.
When struggling with depression, this key action (making difficult decisions) is the one thing I have done that has almost always brought instant healing. True story. Some examples of difficult decisions I have had to make in the past are:
- Leaving a toxic church, a number of years ago;
- Quitting a stressful job and moving to a job that was lower on the corporate ladder;
- Deciding to rent out a house that wouldn’t sell when our finances were in turmoil after trying to sell it for years.
All three of these big decisions were difficult to make.
In each situation, I was suffering from terrible depression, hopelessness, despair, and agony of heart. In all of them, I had lost my will to live. In each of these circumstances, I spent most of my time crying and staring into space, begging God to deliver me and heal me.
In each of these situations, I hadn’t wanted to make that big decision. Or, I thought that I shouldn’t make that big decision. However, as soon as I DID make those big decisions to leave the church, rent the house, quit the job …
… I experienced instant peace and healing.
In each situation, I got my joy back.
When I made those hard decisions, the depression went away. The Lord filled me with hope again and restored the joy of my salvation. I’m so grateful. But through it all, I came to understand that sometimes the Lord doesn’t miraculously deliver us. Sometimes, He waits for us to deliver ourselves.
After all, Isaiah 52 says this:
Put on your strength, O Zion;
Put on your beautiful garments,
O Jerusalem, the holy city!
For the uncircumcised and the unclean
Shall no longer come to you.
Shake yourself from the dust, arise;
Sit down, O Jerusalem!
Loose yourself from the bonds of your neck,
O captive daughter of Zion!” (Isaiah 52:1-2 NKJV, emphases mine).
Did you see that? God’s chosen method of deliverance IS FOR YOU TO DELIVER YOURSELF.
Not kidding. It’s written right there in the Book, plain as day:
- YOU are supposed to awake. (In other words, you’ve been asleep and God needs you to wake up now.)
- You have strength; God has given it to you. Put it on and do something!
- He wants YOU to shake yourself from the dust and arise. Often, that means shaking the dust off your feet and leaving a place, the way Jesus prescribed. But notice that He sees you have been in the dust, and He wants YOU to get YOURSELF out of it! Of course He will help you, but you have to make the choice to pursue freedom!
- God sees that there are chains around your neck, and that you’re a captive. He wants you to loose yourself!
Friend, we in Christian circles often think that we’re waiting for God to tell us to go. However, God thinks differently. HE says He’s waiting for US to notice that His fruit is not in a thing, and to get up and leave.
We have to stop waiting for God to speak and notice that sometimes He speaks in silence.
Sometimes, God speaks by looking at you, raising His eyebrow, and looking pointedly at your ungodly, unfruitful situation–then looking back at you and raising His eyebrow some more.
Sometimes, God isn’t speaking to us about a situation verbally or even in our spirit.
Instead, He’s waiting for us to realize that XYZ situation doesn’t line up with His Word. He’s waiting for us to get up the guts and courage to do something about it.
The fact is:
He has magnified His Word above His name, and He expects us to search out His Word, compare all things to His Word, and act on His Word–without waiting for ten trumpet blasts, five angel appearances, and an audible iteration of His still, small voice telling us to leave a situation.
And often, if you don’t realize that God speaks in silence as described above, you can think that you hear things with your spiritual ears that God isn’t really saying.
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God speaks sometimes by teaching us to notice when our situations don’t align with His Word. He speaks sometimes by teaching us to actually trust our God-given discernment that sees blatant disobedience to His Word in front of us. (Shocker, I know!) 🙂
And when He’s teaching us that lesson, He will be silent in the ways we are accustomed to hearing Him speak.
But, it’s all for a good purpose.
It’s all to make us people of His Word; people of action; people of spiritual maturity who don’t have to be led about by leading strings. As God said in Psalm 32:8-10:
“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will guide you with My eye.
Do not be like the horse or like the mule, which have no understanding, which must be harnessed with bit and bridle, else they will not come near you.
Many sorrows shall be to the wicked; but he who trusts in the Lord, mercy shall surround him” (Psalm 32:8-10 NKJV).
God doesn’t want us to have to be drug about with bit and bridle. He wants us to see what He wants, know His heart based on His Word, and operate from that.
But when we cooperate with Him to deliver ourselves, the way He expects us to, He will help us. He will bring us out into prosperity.
And then we will see that it was Him doing the work the whole time. As Psalm 68:6 says:
“God sets the solitary in families; He brings out those who are bound into prosperity; but the rebellious dwell in a dry land” (Psalm 68:6 NKJV).
When God delivers you–even when He expects you to deliver yourself, which is just another way HE delivers–He does a good job.
He always will bring you out into a prosperous land. And if you are willing to believe Him, you have a right to claim this promise in prayer. You have the right to ask Him to prosper you as soon as you follow Him OUT of your bad situation.
Beloved, you may think you have been waiting on God to deliver you. But sometimes He is waiting on you to deliver yourself.
What do you need to do today? What difficult decision have you been not wanting to make? For example:
- Do you need to leave that church?
- Do you need to quit that job, and find one that doesn’t ruin your life with stress?
- Do you need to go ahead and rent out that house, so your finances will stop bleeding?
- Do you need to move out of your parents’ home and live on your own?
- Do you and your spouse need to go to Christian marriage counseling, instead of pretending your marriage is okay when it’s not?
- Do you need to check yourself into rehab and get free from addiction?
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Whatever it is, MAKE THE DECISION. Free yourself from your chains. You will often find that depression flees, and peace returns, when you do.
And that peace is worth everything.
I’ll leave you with this Scripture:
“Depart from evil and do good; seek peace and pursue it” (Psalm 34:14 NKJV).
O my friend. Departing is an active verb; it’s something you have to choose to do. So are the verbs “do,” “seek,” and “pursue.”
So go ahead and DEPART from that evil thing or place today. Actively SEEK peace and pursue it; go after it with all your heart. You will be glad you did, and the Lord will reward you and bring you into a prosperous land as you obey His clear, written Word.
Is the Lord speaking to you about making a difficult decision today? Does this teaching from the Scriptures help you know what to do with the depressing situations you’ve been experiencing? If so, please leave a comment below. We will pray for you.
Do you and your spouse need to go to Christian marriage counseling, instead of pretending your marriage is okay when it’s not?
I have been praying for restoration of my marriage and all that the locust has eaten after an affair, which led to my salvation and rebirth. As I’m learning to grow in the Lord and He has healed me from A LOT of wrong thinking, it’s time to return to work and serve Him in Spirit and truth. 🙏🏼 many of these scriptures are confirmation of what the Lord revealed in His word as I have sought Him for an obvious answer, confirmation, and peace in returning to work and contributing to the family finances. But perhaps I need to simply be obedient and GO! lol thanks for sharing your wisdom and guidance sister. Your heart for our King is always encouraging and I give glory to God for the timely messages He sends through you sister. Shalom, shalom and love you in Christ 💜👑
Me and Jim fought all our lives we have been married. We and more me Doctors said I couldn’t get pregnant. At that time I was 38 I believe I had desire to have a baby. Well was not getting remnant got into foster care I wanted a baby so much they turned us down but my fried continued to pray over me for me to get pregnant. I studied all the scriptures everyday and prayed for a baby. They turned us down from something Jim did when he was 18 in Ohio and we were living in Florida then. He wasn’t even convicted. I prayed and wrote a letter to the Governor and the Lord spoke to me what to write. I wanted Him too. Two weeks later we got a call they have a baby girl a year old For foster care has been in Med foster care but is healthy now. I said we will taker. We ended up adopting her and she is an RN now working in East Liverpool, Ohio and us in Poland and married.
Two years Later I was volunteering at pregnancy center and I did a pregnancy test , could not believe my eyes. I was pregnant I was jumping up and Praising God. Any way My husband said mean when I told him it better be a boy or I don’t want it. Hurt me bad. We argued about it. He told me to leave everything. The other thing
He Got drunk. A whole bottle151 Rum and his parents had to give him a shower to get him read for our wedding I was waiting at the church for him my mom catered it did all the work when he got there the priest wouldn’t marry us.
I am going back now just telling you situations him and me. We got divorce when I was 18.
Before I was born again.
I was pregnant we got an abortion. He wanted to and I didn’t. He paid. It’s my fault to I understand that.
We remarried in Florida.
I told him only if you got born again. I was working for teenage runaway home. Sara Trollinger was the owner and counter and she new the whole story. I asked her what she thought if we should be together or stay apart. I didn’t know if it was love or he was security for me.
We got remarried in Florida had the kids.
He hounded me about getting a job constantly and he made really good mone. We went to church every Sunday with kids. We moved back to Ohio and He worked for Lords Town. I tried working different places and didn’t work out. Then I went to school for Healthcare Reimbursement. Insurance and coding. All A’ s. Everywhere I applied for job they said no because no experience. Then not to long after that Hard of hearing started and My eyes hard to see. More migraines all day long.
Couldn’t work and can’t now. Every house we bought Jim decided.
This one we had to stope doing everything because he has heart problem weak heart and hard time breathing and coughing. Blood supply is not reaching where it’s suppose to. A couple times in lay two weeks he acted like he never do before in a good way and he has an anger problem. He gets mad if I talk to him at night he will yell instead of talk and talks like he trying to make me feel dumb.
It is just like one minute he could be nice next minute mean.
Thanks for listening. I feel like I should go and That the Lord makes me feel that way too but don’t have anywhere to go.
God bless you i am in a stressful job. I been asking God should i leave because I prayed for this job. I get headaches and stomach aches when i go to it every morning
I have recently made one hard decision and you are right peace came. I need to make two more hard decisions. One leaving my marriage and two give up my job. I feel so unhappy and stressed out with both. Pray I will be strong enough to free my self.