Did you know that, if you’re bound in chains of rejection and abandonment, you might not even know what binds you? True story. The enemy doesn’t want you to know if you have a stronghold of rejection, so he’ll try to keep his dirty work hidden in webs and shadows.
However, God is so much greater–and Holy Spirit will reveal any stronghold of rejection and abandonment in your life if you’ll listen to Him.
That revelation might come any number of ways. For example, the Lord might give you deep revelation about this subject while you’re reading His Word one day.
Or, maybe your pastor preaches about the spirits of rejection and abandonment at church; and as you listen, you recognize the signs about which he (or she) is preaching.
Or, maybe the subject simply comes up in a conversation with a friend.
I once led a precious daughter through inner healing from rejection and abandonment simply after we had a conversation about her life, and she shared that she felt rejected all the time. I then asked her about various symptoms of this stronghold, and she confided that she had every one. It wasn’t anything we had talked about before. It just came up.
You might even begin to recognize this stronghold of rejection and abandonment in your life after reading a blog post one day. 😉
So what does the stronghold of rejection and abandonment look like?
Let’s take a look at how this evil thing manifests in your life. Of course, every person is different; but the manifestations of this evil stronghold are pretty consistent, in my experience anyway. (Please tell me what you think in the comments, okay?)
So here are four signs that you might have a stronghold of rejection and abandonment:
1. You isolate yourself.
Whether you tell yourself that you’re doing it for a good reason or not, self-isolation is always the work of the enemy.
God’s people were made to be one Body, tightly joined and knit together. We are spiritually dependent upon one another. And if you break away from covenant fellowship with your brothers and sisters in Christ, it’s easy for the enemy to pick you off.
Well, as we already discussed in post #1 of this series, the thief ONLY comes to steal, kill, and destroy. That’s what Jesus told us in John 10:10. So what does the enemy want to do?
Simple. He wants to kill you.
How does he do it? After you start believing his lies about being abandoned and rejected, the enemy gets you to isolate yourself from the rest of the Body, from friends, from mentors, from pastors, from fellowship, from teaching, from godly influence and authority of every kind.
Then, boom. All too easy to take you out.
If you have a stronghold of rejection, you might justify self-isolation in any number of ways.
You might tell yourself that, if you allow people in, they will reject you. Then, you reason that relationship is not worth the pain; so you just keep to yourself (or actually withdraw from the fellowship you already had).
You might tell yourself that you’re better off without people, saying that people only hurt you. Which is not true, but the enemy will feed you that lie.
You might tell yourself that people have already rejected you, or that they do reject you on an ongoing basis. Again, this generally has little basis in fact, but it feels real to you. So you act on the feeling, whether the rejection is real or perceived.
Whatever your reason, self-isolation is evil. It’s a trick from the enemy to try to destroy your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being. And it’s a huge sign of a stronghold of rejection.
2. You believe that God has rejected you.
Nothing could be further than the truth. The Bible says that it is not God’s will that ANY should perish, but that ALL should come to repentance. Second Peter 3:8-9 says:
But, beloved, do not forget this one thing, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.”
God has NOT rejected you. He earnestly desires to be in intimate relationship with you.
However, the enemy will tell you the opposite. The devil will twist things in your mind if you let him, deceiving you into thinking that you are so grand in your badness that you’re above God’s mercy and above the ability of the blood of Jesus to save.
That’s just part of the evil web of tricks and lies the enemy wants you to believe. It’s a spirit of pride plus the leviathan spirit that twist the truth in your mind when they’ve already got an open door.
BUT DON’T BELIEVE IT.
God has NOT rejected you. He is the Father standing on the porch right now, calling you home. He is longing for you right now.
God’s mercies are new every day. His blood goes on cleansing you. His Holy Spirit, the holy Hound of Heaven, is on your trail right now, and He’ll never leave you alone.
He loves you, and He desires you. You are His.
Isaiah 49:14-16 says:
But Zion said, ‘The Lord has forsaken me, and my Lord has forgotten me.’ Can a woman forget her nursing child, and not have compassion on the son of her womb?
Surely they may forget, yet I will not forget you. See, I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands; your walls are continually before Me.”
Even if you think God has rejected you, He hasn’t. But even thinking that He has is an indication that you have a stronghold of rejection, abandonment, or even of other evil thought patterns with it.
Are you okay? Keep reading, beloved. God’s people perish for lack of knowledge. LEARN what spiritual warfare really looks like, so you can win!
And sign #3 of a stronghold of rejection is:
3. Refusing to allow others to see or share in something that’s near and dear to your heart.
For example, maybe you paint amazing pictures–but you won’t let anyone see them. Perhaps you have a beautiful voice, and you love to sing; but you don’t want to let anyone hear you sing.
Or, maybe you have a dream for writing a blog that encourages people, but you are afraid to be transparent and tell people about your life experiences.
What’s the common thread in all these situations? Usually, it’s rejection.
Now, you all know that I don’t advocate just sharing every intimate detail of your heart with just anyone.
I’ve written about that before. You have to be careful who you open up and share things like that with, until you are established in those giftings and callings strongly enough that even a hater here and there won’t derail you.
But being careful about who you share with is not the same as refusing to share the deep parts of your heart and dreams with anyone.
How does rejection keep you from sharing your skills and dreams with the world?
Rejection will tell you that, if you share your gift, heart, idea, skills, or calling with others, they will reject you. This demonic spirit will tell you that the people who see these deep things of your heart will reject your dream, laugh at your dream, fail to believe in your dream, etc.
And since these dreams and passions are so very close to you–so precious, so near and dear to your heart–then the idea of anyone rejecting them makes you bleed on the inside, even if nobody has rejected you in that area yet or ever!
Isn’t that horrible? It’s another part of the enemy’s insidious tactic to steal, rob, kill, and destroy both you and your destiny in Christ. Ugh.
Interestingly enough, you know someone is starting to heal from rejection and abandonment when they DO open up and start sharing the deep things of their heart.
If someone who has struggled with rejection suddenly opens up and shares something personal, cherish it. Treasure it. And know that their opening up means God is healing their heart.
They simply wouldn’t be able to share those precious things with you if they weren’t healing.
I’ve seen this time and time again, and it’s beautiful to see. When the enemy’s chains break, and God’s light fills the hearts of sons and daughters by the work of Holy Spirit, you can see the shells that previously encased those sons and daughters break open.
Then the light of Holy Spirit within them begins to shine out, like they were encased in eggshells that have cracked open. And their gifts and callings are suddenly displayed to the world.
Oh, it’s a beautiful thing.
Sign #4 is:
4. You struggle with fear that people will reject or abandon you.
The spirit of fear can only come in when you don’t know that you are loved. And, unfortunately, when people abandon us or reject us–or when we believe that they will or have–then we usually don’t know that we’re loved.
And when you don’t know how much Father loves you, the spirit of fear comes in and torments you.
I won’t go off about that pet peeve here, about how faith is NOT the opposite of fear; click here to read my story about that, and read here about how LOVE is the opposite of fear, not faith.
But suffice it it to say that ongoing fear is concrete evidence that we haven’t been made perfect in love yet.
And the enemy, who hates you and doesn’t play fair at all, sends the spirit of fear to torment you if there’s any area in which you don’t know you’re loved … including if you’ve suffered through abandonment and rejection.
Yes, you could have fear about lots of different things. But, the point here is that the spirit of fear definitely nests on top of abandonment and rejection … every time.
Those are 4 signs you have a stronghold of rejection and abandonment.
Do they sound familiar?
Tomorrow, we’ll talk about how to get free. Did you do your homework assignment from the first post yet? If not, be sure you do it, okay?
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