4 Signs You Have a Stronghold of Rejection and Abandonment

4 Signs You Have a Stronghold of Rejection | FromHisPresence.comDid you know that, if you’re bound in chains of rejection and abandonment, you might not even know what binds you? True story. The enemy doesn’t want you to know if you have a stronghold of rejection, so he’ll try to keep his dirty work hidden in webs and shadows.

However, God is so much greater–and Holy Spirit will reveal any stronghold of rejection and abandonment in your life if you’ll listen to Him.

That revelation might come any number of ways. For example, the Lord might give you deep revelation about this subject while you’re reading His Word one day.

Or, maybe your pastor preaches about the spirits of rejection and abandonment at church; and as you listen, you recognize the signs about which he (or she) is preaching.

Or, maybe the subject simply comes up in a conversation with a friend.

I once led a precious daughter through inner healing from rejection and abandonment simply after we had a conversation about her life, and she shared that she felt rejected all the time. I then asked her about various symptoms of this stronghold, and she confided that she had every one. It wasn’t anything we had talked about before. It just came up.

You might even begin to recognize this stronghold of rejection and abandonment in your life after reading a blog post one day. 😉

So what does the stronghold of rejection and abandonment look like?

Let’s take a look at how this evil thing manifests in your life. Of course, every person is different; but the manifestations of this evil stronghold are pretty consistent, in my experience anyway. (Please tell me what you think in the comments, okay?)

So here are four signs that you might have a stronghold of rejection and abandonment:

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1. You isolate yourself.

Whether you tell yourself that you’re doing it for a good reason or not, self-isolation is always the work of the enemy.

God’s people were made to be one Body, tightly joined and knit together. We are spiritually dependent upon one another. And if you break away from covenant fellowship with your brothers and sisters in Christ, it’s easy for the enemy to pick you off.

Well, as we already discussed in post #1 of this series, the thief ONLY comes to steal, kill, and destroy. That’s what Jesus told us in John 10:10. So what does the enemy want to do?

Simple. He wants to kill you.

How does he do it? After you start believing his lies about being abandoned and rejected, the enemy gets you to isolate yourself from the rest of the Body, from friends, from mentors, from pastors, from fellowship, from teaching, from godly influence and authority of every kind.

Then, boom. All too easy to take you out.

Related: 5 Keys to Peace In the Valley: Openness, Transparency, and Community

If you have a stronghold of rejection, you might justify self-isolation in any number of ways.

You might tell yourself that, if you allow people in, they will reject you. Then, you reason that relationship is not worth the pain; so you just keep to yourself (or actually withdraw from the fellowship you already had).

You might tell yourself that you’re better off without people, saying that people only hurt you. Which is not true, but the enemy will feed you that lie.

You might tell yourself that people have already rejected you, or that they do reject you on an ongoing basis. Again, this generally has little basis in fact, but it feels real to you. So you act on the feeling, whether the rejection is real or perceived.

Whatever your reason, self-isolation is evil. It’s a trick from the enemy to try to destroy your emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical well-being. And it’s a huge sign of a stronghold of rejection.

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2. You believe that God has rejected you.

Nothing could be further than the truth. The Bible says that it is not God’s will that ANY should perish, but that ALL should come to repentance. Second Peter 3:8-9 says:

Start-quoteBut, beloved, do not forget this one thing, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.”

God has NOT rejected you. He earnestly desires to be in intimate relationship with you.

However, the enemy will tell you the opposite. The devil will twist things in your mind if you let him, deceiving you into thinking that you are so grand in your badness that you’re above God’s mercy and above the ability of the blood of Jesus to save.

That’s just part of the evil web of tricks and lies the enemy wants you to believe. It’s a spirit of pride plus the leviathan spirit that twist the truth in your mind when they’ve already got an open door.

BUT DON’T BELIEVE IT.

God has NOT rejected you. He is the Father standing on the porch right now, calling you home. He is longing for you right now.

God’s mercies are new every day. His blood goes on cleansing you. His Holy Spirit, the holy Hound of Heaven, is on your trail right now, and He’ll never leave you alone.

He loves you, and He desires you. You are His.

Isaiah 49:14-16 says:

Start-quoteBut Zion said, ‘The Lord has forsaken me, and my Lord has forgotten me.’ Can a woman forget her nursing child, and not have compassion on the son of her womb?

Surely they may forget, yet I will not forget you. See, I have inscribed you on the palms of My hands; your walls are continually before Me.”

Even if you think God has rejected you, He hasn’t. But even thinking that He has is an indication that you have a stronghold of rejection, abandonment, or even of other evil thought patterns with it.

Are you okay? Keep reading, beloved. God’s people perish for lack of knowledge. LEARN what spiritual warfare really looks like, so you can win!

Recommended resource: Joyce Meyer’s book The Battlefield of the Mind is essential for anyone desiring to win the spiritual battle for your life. Check it out here on Amazon!

And sign #3 of a stronghold of rejection is:

3. Refusing to allow others to see or share in something that’s near and dear to your heart.

For example, maybe you paint amazing pictures–but you won’t let anyone see them. Perhaps you have a beautiful voice, and you love to sing; but you don’t want to let anyone hear you sing.

Or, maybe you have a dream for writing a blog that encourages people, but you are afraid to be transparent and tell people about your life experiences.

What’s the common thread in all these situations? Usually, it’s rejection.

Now, you all know that I don’t advocate just sharing every intimate detail of your heart with just anyone.

I’ve written about that before. You have to be careful who you open up and share things like that with, until you are established in those giftings and callings strongly enough that even a hater here and there won’t derail you.

But being careful about who you share with is not the same as refusing to share the deep parts of your heart and dreams with anyone.

How does rejection keep you from sharing your skills and dreams with the world?

Rejection will tell you that, if you share your gift, heart, idea, skills, or calling with others, they will reject you. This demonic spirit will tell you that the people who see these deep things of your heart will reject your dream, laugh at your dream, fail to believe in your dream, etc.

And since these dreams and passions are so very close to you–so precious, so near and dear to your heart–then the idea of anyone rejecting them makes you bleed on the inside, even if nobody has rejected you in that area yet or ever!

Isn’t that horrible? It’s another part of the enemy’s insidious tactic to steal, rob, kill, and destroy both you and your destiny in Christ. Ugh.

Interestingly enough, you know someone is starting to heal from rejection and abandonment when they DO open up and start sharing the deep things of their heart.

If someone who has struggled with rejection suddenly opens up and shares something personal, cherish it. Treasure it. And know that their opening up means God is healing their heart.

They simply wouldn’t be able to share those precious things with you if they weren’t healing.

I’ve seen this time and time again, and it’s beautiful to see. When the enemy’s chains break, and God’s light fills the hearts of sons and daughters by the work of Holy Spirit, you can see the shells that previously encased those sons and daughters break open.

Then the light of Holy Spirit within them begins to shine out, like they were encased in eggshells that have cracked open. And their gifts and callings are suddenly displayed to the world.

Oh, it’s a beautiful thing.

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Sign #4 is:

4. You struggle with fear that people will reject or abandon you.

The spirit of fear can only come in when you don’t know that you are loved. And, unfortunately, when people abandon us or reject us–or when we believe that they will or have–then we usually don’t know that we’re loved.

And when you don’t know how much Father loves you, the spirit of fear comes in and torments you.

I won’t go off about that pet peeve here, about how faith is NOT the opposite of fear; click here to read my story about that, and read here about how LOVE is the opposite of fear, not faith.

But suffice it it to say that ongoing fear is concrete evidence that we haven’t been made perfect in love yet.

And the enemy, who hates you and doesn’t play fair at all, sends the spirit of fear to torment you if there’s any area in which you don’t know you’re loved … including if you’ve suffered through abandonment and rejection.

Yes, you could have fear about lots of different things. But, the point here is that the spirit of fear definitely nests on top of abandonment and rejection … every time.

Those are 4 signs you have a stronghold of rejection and abandonment.

Do they sound familiar?

Tomorrow, we’ll talk about how to get free. Did you do your homework assignment from the first post yet? If not, be sure you do it, okay?

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72 Comments

  1. MELINDA BROWN says:

    Thank you so much for this post. In continuing to read, I discovered that this pertains to me. I love God and I have a gift for writing, but struggle with getting started, thoughts of rejection, expressing myself. I know that if I can get started, I will bless God and others. My job is causing me stress and Health problems. This article blessed me and I heard God talking to me through this blog. God bless you!

    1. Hi Melinda. Thank you so much for reading! The first step to getting free is even recognizing the chains, so I’m so glad Father God is talking to you about the things that have gone on in your life. Who knows … maybe getting started with writing could be Papa’s way of opening a door for you to eventually have an occupation that you enjoy, rather than one that stresses you out. You never know! It would take time, but you can do it. One day at a time. Like any other occupation, persistence and perseverance are the keys.

    2. Kimberly Durham says:

      Thank you I am loving you’re posts cant wait o read more!

    3. Irene Cuevas says:

      I want to be free please help me.A sister told me I had 4 Generational Spirits and 14 active Strongholds

      1. Hello sister! I had a generational curse of rejection removed from me including several spirits tormenting me cast out of me. Believe it or not, I did it all virtually on Zoom. It was through a church called HungryGeneration in Washington state and they do digital deliverances regularly. I am free, I am free, I am free! You can be too!❤️

    4. Margaret Porath says:

      I have always known that I am afraid of rejection and abandonment, I isolate and suffer from depression and anxiety, This has been a problem for most of my life and I am 64. Thank you for your blog Margaret

  2. Hi Jamie
    Please pray for me. I am having an unjust situation currently. I am going to court on the 19th wrt the protection order I applied against my husband who has been emotionally abusing and assaulting me for years. Now he locked me me out of the house and changed the locks hence I went for a protection order. .He countered the contents on the order by placing humiliating allegations which are not true. Please pray with me that the court case go in my favour as this is really unjust. Regards Naledi.

    1. I pray that Papa would help you and cover you with mercy, Naledi! Grace and peace to you today in Jesus’ name!

      1. Henry igon says:

        Thank you so much. I am suffered from this. I am so tired, if not because I believe there’s life after death I may ended my life. I didn’t see where I am going. Though I knew it but unable to do anything. I am staying all alone and this fear always tormenting. Most of the time I feel hopeless and shame for of my friends and relatives have their own family. As I attended churches I use just to sit by myself. It’s really hurt. People use to ask me why I am not settled yet. That questions hard to answer honestly. Then I used to avoid people’s especially ceremony. I noticed hard people even to approach me. I always try to do my best for that’s the only way.

        1. Jesus loves you very much, Henry. Turn to Him and He will help you. I prayed for you just now.
          Blessings,
          Jamie

      2. Dear Jamie,
        You had once published a prayer to reverse unjust situations and It was a time was facing a very unjust situation.
        I prayed that prayer every night and God turned the situation in a remarkable way.
        I would encourage our sister does the same thing
        God will surely reverse her situation.

        thank you for being sucha blessing
        Naomi

  3. Spot on! I’ll be using this to help my sisters in jail gain freedom! Thank u!!

  4. Vincent Del Vecchio says:

    My dream was to find a Christ partner someone to share my faith in Jesus etc.I am 60 years old and live alone.I have visited the Philippines once in 2012 and loved it and would love to retire there.I have three grown children who are to busy with their lives and no time for me not even for my birthday or fathers day.But its ok i have Jesus.One day a little over a year ago i was reading a comment on a faith in Jesus page and i replied and this went back and forth for a few months to findley we start chatting on the phone.JAsmin lives in Davao City Philappines works as a caregiver very active in her church and mission work.We talk daily and share our faith and live stories.The sad thing is people will say how can you love someone you have not slept with..That really hurts because if thats all i want i can get that here.I know there are people that because of health issues can’t have sex.Is that a reason to leave the one you love? We live in this world that sex is the center of a relationship not God.So i only share with a handful of understanding friends. My siblings and children have rejected me because of my choice to be in this relationship.I plan to visit Jasmin and meet her and family and church Christ Fellowship Church who pray for both of us.Jasmin wants me to retire there which is funny cause that was my plan anyways.But she has agreed to come here till i retire at 65 so that’s only five years.My family is not very loving or God loving were Jasmins family is very God loving.There is nothing here for her or me it only makes sense we live there were she has a loving family.Thank You

    1. I pray you’d continue to press through and follow the voice of Jesus, no matter what other people think, brother.

      1. I WAS BLESSED READING YOUR COMMENT. YOUR STATEMENT ABOUT LOVING SOMEONE WITHOUT HAVE SEX IS SO TRUE. THAT IS A TRUE EXPRESSION OF JESUS LOVE TO ME!!! I AM SO GRATEFUL THAT YOU SHARED AND MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU!!!

  5. Jamie, i had major rejections in my life. Clearly, i am exhibiting these signs. I thought I was just being a loner! Thank you for the revelation. Looking forward to your next post.

    1. You’re not just being a loner, dear sister. And all those old situations can be healed so thoroughly that you will feel as if they happened to someone else. Woot! Praise God for His healing power and the blood of Jesus!

  6. Rebecca L Jones says:

    Isolation is sort of self imposed but other times it is because of someone else ans bad decisions. It can be because of illness. Then that loneliness from you heart is a call from God to spend time with Him. I never rejected someone I was praying for but I know people who are addicts that I tried to share Jesus with who have continued in that life and had to protect myself and others from that hurt.

    1. Yes, isolation can be for any number of reasons. But self-isolation is definitely not from the Lord. We are a Body. ?

  7. Jamie, “You are RIGHT on the money”… hitting right at the core…but can I turn it around, ( I ask myself) as I have really isolated myself….. buried deep lots of things that I’m not sure I can retrieve. … can’t believe I’m still falling for the devil’s plans!!! Aargh… Lord dig deep into my locked soul and release me, PLEASE ….

    1. YES. Dear friend, you CAN turn it around! Maybe you might not be able to if you had to do things by yourself, but that’s the beauty of it: Holy Spirit will “midwife” you through the process as you follow the steps. You will be AMAZED at how tangible and immediate His help is! He really is a Person Who dwells inside you and will lead you through all the steps to freedom. ❤️

  8. I am glad I found this. Thank you so much for your spiritual insight. I had a feeling my isolation was a defense tactic because I usually feel miserable all alone yet I feel like I cant fight against it. I like how you talk about the spiritual warfare aspect, I have heard these terms in a counseling aspect but to know how to fight against them makes sense. The enemy doesn’t want us to know that.

  9. Thank you this is very helpful to my life.. God bless you

    1. Taniqua Burns says:

      Thank you Heavenly Father for everything that you provide for me, my daughter and family. And friendships

  10. Abandonment and rejection are serious principalities I have experienced it and it can destroy your life. God gave me Isaiah 54:2-10 which really was for me. God is awesome and He loves and will always see us through.

  11. Hello… Im just finding this. I searched up the words ( The spirit of rejection ) and you came up. This was reviled to me ,when a friend of mine told me that she was expecting. I was happy for her and wanted her blessed. You see I’ve. been waiting for over 16 years to conceive. And when she told me her news I felt like God was overlooking me” again “. I felt like ” God why would you allow me to go through this again… What about the baby you promised me? Why do you constantly overlook me?” Why hould you bless her and not me. My heart can’t take another beating like this . The first time this happend i shut down because it was painful and it caused damage to a relationship. I didnt want this to happen with this friendship so I pushed past my feeling as best as I could. I congratulated her with smiles and prayed for her. I want to be as transparent as I can ( because I want help).All i could think about was ” how am I going to make it through this….. I wanted to be a faithful friend despite my pain. How will i respond to the comments like… Your next… or get pregnate already, knowing full well I have no controll over something God orcustrates. Anyways through this news, this revelation came. I was dealing with a spirit of rejection. “God smiled on her not me” Now that Im awear of whats been going on and have been for years. I want to get well and stay that way so i can be blessed. Thank you for your insight. Be blessed

  12. This spirit of rejection was in me along with fear it caused me to leave God and reject his spirit out of hurt I said did not need him or his spirit anymore found people who love me and accept me and realize I needed to repent and return and believe the Lord and not listen to voice of deception and now I wont have him and need him back I. Will be rejected now for rejecting the Lord the enemy deceived me and I need the Lord and his spirit back marsha

  13. Hi Jamie,
    I read your post it was awesone. I check every once awhile to make sure im staying free. Because i was delivered from rejection and abandonment. Since i left my church due to abuse im seeking for God to lead me. Even thou i left im still in cobtact with the pastors and attend a service once in while.
    Keep doing a great job.love to read more of your messages.

  14. Kim Lyman says:

    Not sure what to say except this is a revelation for me. I feel so hurt to have this stronghold. Oh LORD!!! I pray for HIS healing and deliverance. GOD BLESS YOU

  15. Thank you so much for this True words from your heart, it opened my Eyes, cause you talk over me. Thank you for your encouragement and courage!! The only thing I want is a deep relationship with daddy and people. God bless you and your wonderful ministry mighty with wisdom, love, finances and influence!! Greetings Juli

  16. Sharon Kimbrough says:

    Thank you for God ‘s Word that encouraged me this morning to know I don’t have to feel rejected or abandon.

  17. Wow my eyes just opened hey, exactly what I’m going through. I got a car accident, didn’t get hurt but my car got scrapped off, my ex girlfriend left me last year, I lost my job, my business took a nose dive, everyone is has distanced themselves from me, family, relatives, and friends. I cant get a job, I’m always in the house, it’s very difficult to get out, and my girlfriend wants to leave me for someone else, because we haven’t met in 5 months, I was about to let her go, but after seeing this post I think let me go fix things with her, hopefully she’ll understand this because I’ve also left her in the same way at some point, I’m shocked hey.

  18. I know I have been dealing with a spirit of rejection and abandonment now and probably have had this fear for most of my life, I am divorced after 38 years and I have been so afraid still, I know I have been isolated for up to three years and did get better but now with my marriage ending, I have started to isolate myself again and I know this is not Gods will for me, my thoughts have been negative and self depreciation, I do feel that I have been listening to the enemy too long and I even felt God abandoned me,thank you for showing me this stronghold of rejection and abandonment that the enemy is trying to destroy me and being a part of the church and family and pray that the Lord releases me from this bondage,thank you

  19. Thank you for writing this article. It touched me in my deepest wound…rejection for me started in the womb when I was born to two teenage parents. As I reflect on the years it is so clear that I have and continue to be tormented by rejection however today after a conversation with my sister in law and reading this article I stand firmly in trusting my God given purpose will take me past my chains of rejection. God’s love and grace will continue to guide me in healing and helping others. Thank you for being a part of my journey. God bless you!

  20. Thank God for this post… Just this week I encoutered an attack of rejection, I was floored..I asked the Lord to reveal what is behind that attack..He told me am dealing with a spirit of rejection so so I started researching it. I always wanted to inspire people so I made a video and shared with a friend but zi asked her mot to share it. This post haa really blessed me.. I notice that I always want to be by myself..

  21. Thank you for your post, I know things are wrong in my life hence I was searching for help. Long story short I am a hard worker in logistics business but I have nothing to show for it. I get new clients but no repeat business. I always dream naked, eating some stuff on my dream. It’s like I smell bad to client. But after reading this post I have a renewed power because I now know the cause and now employ correct fighting strategy because I have identified the enemy. Please help me in prayer this is my day one prayer and fast and reading the Bible.

  22. This blessed my soul and I praise GOD that you obeyed His voice to write this article. Even some of the comments spoke directly to me and specific situations in my life. This spirit has held me back so many times in my life but no more. I thank God for you!

  23. Thanks for your uplifting article on the spirit of fear, abandonment and rejection..
    I am not generally a fearful type of persons, but i struggle with this spirit consistently. Couple weeks ago my friend was praying for me and said the Lord revealed that I had a spirit of ABANDONMENT operating in my life.

    Now, thanks to your article I know understand how the demon of fear is now such a stronghold in my life. I couldn’t figure it out .
    Powerful article.

  24. Hullo Jamie. Thanks for this insight. I must confess, u have been blessed by this piece of message.
    The stronghold of rejection and abandonment had been so strong in me but now that I have discovered it. I am waging war against it to bring it down .
    May God continue to bless your Devine work
    Thank you so much.

  25. Your great at explaining the What? But, not the How! I want specifics on how to deal with this Spirit Of Rejection- Situation. I’ve read countless articles, and to be honest many are quite confusing. Therapists and Counselors are a waste of time. Many don’t have the experience or expertise to deal with such a complex over-lapping issue. I have been stuck my entire life dealing with this. Nobody seems to want to talk about the feeling of never be loved as a child. The Trauma, and Abuse that would cause anyone to withdraw and alienate themselves. That is what the call defense mechanisms. It’s not about being shy. It’s about being taken advantage of for the sake of the abuser. And, you want me to trust someone.

    1. Hi Chuck, please read all the articles in this series and you will find the “how.” Thanks!

  26. Joyce Stewart says:

    Hi Jamie. I have just come across your articles and I thank you for writing them. I’m concerned about my oldest child, age 52. I just don’t know how to help her outside of all the steps that you have lined out here. I have 4 children and to my knowledge she is the only one who feels like she had to “work for” love from us, her parents. I have prayed, cried, counseled and studied the Word of God. I’ve asked forgiveness from her for anything that I might have done knowing or unknowing. We were pastors for many years and I wonder if this could have caused her to feel rejected? My husband has passed on to heaven so I now am alone to deal with her words of hurt!

    1. Hi, sweet Joyce. I don’t know the answer to her problems, but I know Jesus does. Do not assign blame to yourself. Ask the Lord to show you if or where you hurt her or damaged your relationship in any way. If He shows you something, then please make it right with her and confess it, and ask forgiveness. But if He doesn’t, then just keep praying. Ask specifically for the Lord to reveal the hidden things in this area. He will if you ask.
      Love and big hugs,
      Jamie

  27. No One cares. I’ve prayed , studied scripture, pleaded and begged God for help. I know my situation better than anyone including God. But all as fallen on deaf ears. The scars of Rejection, Abandonment and Condemnation are wired in my Heart, Mind, and Soul. I also checked out the medical profession. Medicare will not pay for the right kind of intervention that deals with these issues. So once again, going back to childhood, rejection still is dropping its gloomy head on me. Forgiveness you say. You can forgive, but you’ll never forget. The hardest thing for me to deal with is the guilt, shame, of never being listened to or understood. This has haunted me all the days of my life. I’ll just have to live with it.

  28. Victoryplus says:

    I got here searching for a solution. I am not experiencing any of the signs but it is funning and disgusting what is making a Pastor to always prefer another lady/ woman to his legally married wife.

    If he is ignorant, fine. But, this is a person that his word is healing others. Right now he is doing all things alone in the house including cooking. Is the wife suffering from the spirit of rejection and abandonment?

    Thank you as I wait for the answer.

    Jolly Jay,
    Nigeria.

    1. Hi there, thanks for reading. I think I would need you to clarify, as I’m not sure what your question is? Obviously if a married man prefers another woman to his wife, that’s wrong. But you already know that. How can I help?
      Thanks!
      Jamie

  29. Virginia Muthoni Ngugi says:

    I know I suffer from the spirit of rejection and abandonment in a major way; exhibiting all those things you’ve shared. I am an orphan, 33 yrs old but not married yet . I have the gift of singing that the devil has never allowed me to pursue. I am currently going through a broken engagement from my fiance who is a Pastor. This is the second time I am being left by a fiance who is a Pastor. I am in deep depression and I have lost the will to live totally. Right now I am in isolation just desiring death because of the pain I am in. I have really tried to fight the spirit of rejection coz it’s the same thing that killed my parent but I feel like I have lost the battle.

    1. Hi Virginia. I’m so sorry you are hurting right now. But I want to encourage you–your voice is your key out of this. The devil can’t stop you from singing and speaking out. He has no right or authority over your life unless you give it to him. So please, sing out! Stand up and speak out! Use your voice and speak/sing the Scriptures over yourself! Your praise and confession of faith will break the attack of the enemy off you.
      Blessings,
      Jamie

  30. Hi Jamie

    I can relate to all four of these signs. I do not know when and where the spirit of rejection attached to me but it’s safe to say it has. I used to be a disbeliever in it. I am so happy I came across your blog.This was really insightful

  31. Thank-you,Jamie,When my husband an I were growing up he was bullied because his family was poor an I was abused, an did not let people near an still till this day am careful what I tell, my husband is my is my best friend, we raised a family broke generational curses ,but still draw bad people..

  32. Annanson John says:

    My Rhema prophetic word.

  33. I am so happy to read this wonderful insight! Since my childhood i grew up in rejection and abandoned. Abusive and violence with no love. I do isolate myself most of the time as i feel peace and plus being an introvert i find it very peaceful. But at times I do feel that i have the fear of being judged or mocked. But reading this made me think that I should interact with people since I am a very friendly person. Thank you Jamie.
    God Bless!

  34. Kembe penny says:

    Fear fear fear am soon over coming you because have discovered that God loves me.Thank you jamie.Stay blessed

  35. Thamicha T says:

    Still blessing people in 2020

  36. Margaret A Porath says:

    I know I have a stronghold of abandonment and rejection, due to my childhood and wrong choices in my life, please pray that the Lord will help me to overcome this

  37. andre luyt says:

    Hello Jamie ..I’m Andre Luyt
    I got a stronghold but don’t know witch one….this is my 3rd marriage and in every marriage I cheat,lie…and there is I thing I don’t go from woman to woman it’s only two ..I must be with two woman….I have a pattern my wife tells me it’s a circle I go two weeks by her and two weeks by the other woman..my wife is saved and the other one is in the world drinking and party …
    I love my wife I want to be with her ,but then this thing comes up making me warm in my face and blood is like rising I must run specially when I see the other one in the road or shop…then I’m gone…I talk about my wife to her she has this spell over me where I tell her everything making my wife bad by her..she manipulate me with her tong..drawing me in..then I’m with her….then the anger comes from her,then I run to my softhearted wife again…promising her faithfulness …just so after it happens again….

    The other part my wife tells me is I did wrong …
    This woman and myself went to the beach in night time ,she prayed for me in the water …and my wife said its witchcraft,is this true?

    Please pray for me so I can be faithful to my wife Charlene ..
    And to be released from whatever stronghold

    1. Hello, Andre,
      Yes, it definitely sounds like you’re involved in witchcraft. More than that, however, you’re still in the sin-enjoying business, which means you have not given your life to Jesus and made Him the Lord, Boss, and Master of your life. You will need to do that if you want to get free from all this sin and live a holy life that is full of victory. Click here to read how to give your heart to Jesus, and what that decision looks like.
      When you give your life to Jesus and become born again, you will be a new man. God will instantly put you out of the sin-enjoying business, and you will become a new creation in Christ.
      I pray you will decide today to give your life to Jesus. He loves you very much and desires to save you from your sins, forgive you, wash you clean and give you a totally new life and a new beginning. Jesus died for you, so you wouldn’t have to die.
      Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down His life for His friends. That’s what Jesus did for you.
      Thank you for reading my blog. I will pray for you.
      Jamie Rohrbaugh

  38. Susan Jones says:

    Is it a spirit of rejection when you can be talking to people and they act like they haven’t heard a word you said. This happens to me A LOT!

    1. Francie Robertson says:

      Hi Susan!
      Thank you so much. This has happened a lot to me too. It HURTS like mad LORD! However I WILL say this it’s been happening much LESS lately(?). PRAISE THE LORD. Oh and guess what I had to rewrite a lot of text here as I accidently clicked OFF THE PAGE. Once I may have said “SEE LORD even my written messages get deleted – am I REJECTING MYSELF even without consciously intending to??? IBELIEVE SO. Anyway sister I googled much over the years and found myself deeply into BITTER ROOT JUDGMENTS and EXPECTANCIES – very HEAVY stuff but so rewarding and full of TRUTH – for myself at least. A KEY SCRIPTURE is from
      HEBREWS 12:15
      “looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any ROOT OF BITTERNESS springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled…”
      Thanks again Susan. I pray Heavenly FATHER for Susan, myself and everyone here – a NEW release, a mighty deliverance and healing during this very special season of the FEAST OF TABERNACLES 5782! A SEASON OF GREAT REJOICING IN OUR LORD YESHUA who will continue to CLEANSE, RESTORE, TO LIFT UP OUR HEADS and HEARTS, TO MAKE US WHOLE, and continue to GIVE US A (NEW)FUTURE AND A (NEW) HOPE!!!
      AMEN! SHALOM!

  39. Elizabeth Tuinidau says:

    All that is in me…I don’t want to have lot of friends due to all these things that i faced right now.It’s been years..i just wanted to be alone.My husband lived with my two children far away in another country,they never call for almost two months now and i thought they ignored me. I am in tears as I read all this right now.It is really so hard to believe that my famy or friends will be my best friends.I stiil can’t believe anyone right now.It hurts so much.

  40. Hello am Harrison. Have suffered from this spirit of rejection bt now I have hope of fighting it spiritually after reading this article.

  41. Please pray for me I think this spirit is accompanying me every office I go in school is jurs rejection everywhere please pray for me.thank you

  42. This article was a gift. Thank you so much. It really resonated with me . I am in my 30’s and amazed by how true each step was for me. I am an extrovert and have been blessed with good friends but have also experienced rejections , friendships ending abruptly with no real explanation, and extreme feelings of being ignored ,”tolerated” or unwanted – in Christian fellowship based groups or with Christian friends . It’s so strange. My 20 year friendships from college are solid and a blessing. My friends from schooling are great. But my attempts to make solid church based friends has been often met with a painful ending.
    I have begun questioning what is wrong with me. But reading this article impressed on me the importance of learning how to overcome this through Jesus. I have mentioned feeling like I have a spirit of rejection and spirit of inadequacy most of my life. It’s refreshing to see it be named , described and addressed. I have hope .
    Thank you.

  43. Joy Kaleta says:

    Thanks for your information. I never thought about having a stronghold of rejection I do bc appreciate your words. Is there a way I can see the article about how to break it? Thanks

    1. Hi Joy, all the links to all the articles in the series are in the post above! Just click the links and you’ll see all the healing steps!
      Blessings and thanks for reading!
      Jamie

  44. Your post sure has been hitting home especially this one. I do feel actually what this post is talking about. I have for awhile now. I feel so lost.

  45. Thankyou Jamie, this word is so powerful, I used to suffer from a spirit of rejection, so this has hit me right where it should, I no longer feel that way thanks be to God be blessed in Jesus name

  46. Hi Jamie,
    Thank you for conveying this message and heal others!
    There is so much to say on rejection and abandonment, two favourite weapons of the enemy. I self-isolated and feared people for years, believing that I have to cope by myself. What a stronghold I started to build! Indeed, only the truth sets free, only Jesus can heal! true, true, true, amen! His Words are powerful like a sword and can destroy any fortress! I am now healing mother-daughter wounds and destroying strongholds, the enemy is fighting back fiercely – all prayers welcome!

  47. Hi Jamie,
    Wonderful post, as I was reading I realized I battle these things daily but I also seen where you said healing has begun when your able to open up about your passions, the healing journey is pretty ugly right now for me lol but I know God lead me to this post so that I can see what I am battling but I can also see where he is healing, this gave me hope again today, it does not seem like much is happening on the outside of my healing but reading this has showed me that a lot of healing is happening on the inside, I believe I had unrealistic expectations for healing, and I have been trying to control my healing, which by the way does not work well, lol but God is so merciful and gracious during my journey of complete healing, I use to fall into the tactics and condemn myself but I notice now that when I do fall, I recognize the tactics, repent and start again, it doesn’t seem like much but I truly believe though I can’t always see or recognize it, the healing has already been started. Thank you for being about our Fathers business and kingdom, God Bless.

  48. Yes, I isolate my self and I have the spirit of fear

  49. Koudisegha Tamarakuro says:

    i don’t really isolate myself but most of the time i feel no one wants to talk to me. i have trust issues and i ruin my relationship with my best friend it actually hurts but i actually trust him before after we broke up i feel everyone is going to reject me so i hard start a conversation with people especially boys

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