Do You Ever Have To Forgive God?

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Do you ever have to forgive God? And, by that, I mean: Does any person EVER have to forgive God? Or is the very concept sacrilegious?

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    One of those very foundational issues is the question, “Do you ever have to forgive God?”

    Friend, the answer to that question “Do you ever have to forgive God?” is a resounding YES.

    BUT … not for the reasons you may think.

    It’s not because God ever does anything wrong; He doesn’t. God is perfect, and is wholly good; He can literally not do anything wrong EVER.

    However, forgiveness isn’t always about what other people did wrong.

    Over years of working in inner healing ministry, I have learned that people’s hurts and wounds are 100% real to them whether the offense or event they are mad at–the thing that hurt them–was real or not.

    In other words, if someone thinks you did something hurtful to them but you actually didn’t, they will still hurt over it even if you never actually did the thing. Reality doesn’t produce feelings; perception does.

    And forgiveness is a tool that releases and heals feelings.

    Forgiveness is a tool that releases YOU from things that wounded you, hurt you, disappointed you, or offended you. And it is for that reason, and that reason alone, that we DO sometimes have to forgive God as we walk through our individual journeys of deep soul healing.

    We have to forgive God sometimes, not because He did anything wrong, but for either of the following reasons:

    1. He didn’t do what you wanted Him to do, the way you wanted Him to do it; or
    2. He didn’t do what you wanted Him to do in the time you wanted Him to do it.

    See, God will always get us to His best plan for our end result. But, His methods are His own.

    And sometimes His methods frustrate us.

    For example, let’s say you cried out to the Lord God this very morning for a godly spouse. You have been single a long time, and you want to get married! Specifically, you asked the Lord to bring you into marriage with the person you’re currently dating.

    You really had a great prayer time with the Lord when you asked Him this, so you got up from your quiet time and go to work. You’re convinced that something wonderful is going to happen–maybe even today!

    However, all the wind let out of your sails when, at lunch that same day, you met with your significant other and … drum roll … they broke up with you, instead of making progress toward marriage.

    Ugh! That would be such a frustrating situation. It would feel sad, and you would probably cry a few (maybe buckets of) tears.

    But in the middle of all that, you might also ask, “Why, God? Why?”

    And, potentially, you just might be angry or upset or offended or disappointed with God, even just a little bit.

    Or maybe …

    • God didn’t give you the job or promotion you wanted Him to give you.
    • God let people attack you whom you thought were your friends, and He did nothing to stop it.
    • God didn’t send the money for you to make that purchase you wanted to make, when you wanted to make it.
    • God didn’t … didn’t, didn’t, didn’t.

    Beloved, God has never let you down. But He sees things entirely differently than you see them.

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    For example:

    • He sees that your significant other was cheating on you with someone else at break time, and you never knew about it.
    • He sees that the promotion for which you applied would have turned your life into a living hell, and He wanted to spare you from that.
    • He knew that the people who attacked you were actually two-faced, jealous people who didn’t have His heart for you at all. He was letting you see that truth too, so you could move on and be free.
    • He knew that the vehicle you wanted so badly to purchase in that moment was a lemon, and it would have died on you right after you got it home!

    In every situation in life, when God doesn’t do what we want Him to do the way we want Him to do it

    Or when He doesn’t do what we want Him to do when we want Him to do it

    It’s very easy to get an offense against God. We get disappointed, upset, or hurt at Him.

    And beloved, that is why we have to forgive God sometimes.

    Forgiveness is not about the reality of whether someone actually did something wrong to you or not. Forgiveness heals your reality of pain. Forgiveness releases the shackles holding you to your hurt.

    So if you’ve felt hurt, offended, saddened, disappointed, wounded, or disillusioned with God because of how He handled some things …

    … Because of what He allowed to happen, or what He didn’t make happen, or what He didn’t protect you from …

    Then, my friend, it’s time to forgive God.

    This applies for anything that hurts, even if you know God will work things out for your good.

    In the examples above, God will work every single one of them out for your good:

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    • He caused your significant other to break up with you because He did hear your prayer, and He wants you to meet “the one” at church next month! He’s ready to bring you into godly marriage, but He had to get “the wrong one” out of the way in order to bless you!
    • He has a totally different job in mind for you, and that job is going to be a blessing. Keep looking, knowing that God never closes a door if He doesn’t have a better door for you somewhere!
    • He has better friends for you somewhere else–friends that will honor and cherish you; friends who won’t talk badly about you behind your back!
    • He knows that a much better car is going to go on big discount soon, and He let the lemon fall through so He can give you that car when it’s time!

    Friend, God’s ways are not our ways. His thoughts are not our thoughts.

    As it says in Isaiah 55:8-9:

    “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways,” says the Lord. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts” (Isaiah 55:8-9 NKJV).

    And then there’s Romans 8:28:

    “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28 NKJV).

    God does things differently than we do. He sees things differently than we do. He knows all things and all people. He sees things we cannot see, and He protects us from dangers we didn’t know were even approaching.

    But too often, we fail to trust Him.

    We might believe Him, but trust is a whole different thing. (Read my story here about how the Lord showed me I believed Him, but I didn’t trust Him.) And so we get hurt at Him for allowing things that hurt us, when He was actually protecting us the whole time.

    Beloved, has God done something you didn’t want Him to do?

    Has He thrust you out of a place you didn’t want to leave? Has He closed the door to a relationship in which you wanted to remain? Has He done something in His own timing, instead of saying “yes” to your timing?

    One of the biggest things we as Christians have to learn is that we “work for” God; He does not “work for” us.

    Yes, He hears and answers our prayers. Yes, He served us by sending His Son Jesus to die for our sins, making it possible for us to have eternal life in Him. But what I mean is, God is sovereign and we are not. And whatever He says goes, even if we wish He had said something else.

    So friend, are you ready to forgive God and free yourself from the hurt you have against Him?

    If so …

    Here’s how to forgive God, even when you know He did nothing wrong:

    Forgiving God is very simple. In order to forgive God, you literally just talk to Him. (He’s right there with you, even now.) This is what you say:

    “Dear Heavenly Father, I come to You in Jesus’ name.

    Thank You for hearing my prayer right now. Thank You that I can come boldly before the throne of grace, where I may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

    I praise You for Your mercy and lovingkindness, for You are good–even when I don’t feel like it.

    Abba Father, I confess today that:

    • I have been hurt and offended at You.
    • I’ve been hurt by what You did; what You allowed; and the way You let things work out.
    • I’ve been mad at You because You didn’t do what I wanted You to do.
    • I’ve been angry and upset at You because You didn’t ride to my rescue in the timing in which I wanted You to.
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    Father God, I choose to forgive You right now.

    I know You didn’t do anything wrong, but I have felt like You did because You didn’t do what I wanted You to do when I wanted You to do it. So, in order to release myself from these chains of lies that have held me bound, I forgive You for not doing what I wanted You to do–and for not operating in my timing.

    Father God, I confess that I have held onto unforgiveness, bitterness, anger, hatred, resentment, wrath, and hurt toward You. I have even failed to trust You as well. I confess these things as sin right now.

    Abba, please forgive me for my sins. Please forgive me for getting offended at You.

    Please forgive me for not trusting You; for holding onto all these terrible thoughts and feelings toward You, when You have only been protecting me.

    Please cover me with the blood of Jesus. Wash me clean and make me pure and holy, inside and outside. Please fill me with Your Holy Spirit where those things were, and draw me to Yourself.

    Lord God, please help me to trust You from now on.

    You are only good. Everything You do is good. Your ways may not be my ways, but please teach me to see things the way You see them–and to understand and walk in Your ways and Your thoughts.

    I trust You to work all things out for my good, Abba, even though I don’t know exactly what that will look like. I am safe in Your hands, beloved Father, and it’s in Jesus that I live and move and have my being.

    You are only good, Abba. Please teach me and draw me to Yourself. Thank You, Father God. In Jesus’ name I pray, amen.”

    Beloved, you do have to forgive God sometimes.

    It’s not because He did anything wrong; He is GOOD and cannot commit wrong against you at all. He is merciful and just, ever protecting and preserving His children.

    But forgiveness isn’t about the reality of what someone else did. Forgiveness is how we free ourselves from the chains of our feelings and our hurts.

    And if you will forgive God for not doing what you wanted Him to do, and for not moving when you wanted Him to do so, you will free yourself from your hurt and offense against God who alone is wise.

    My friend, God loves you.

    He can do no wrong, and He always works everything out for your good. He knows the good thoughts and good plans He has for your life, even when we don’t know what those thoughts and plans may be. And He is working all things out for your good, even right this second.

    Will you forgive Him for the wrong that you perceive Him to have committed against you today, so you can be free and draw close to Him again? Leave a comment below if you will!

    9 Comments

    1. Rasheika Singleton says:

      Yes, I forgive. I know God is good and He loves me.

      1. Darlene Lawrence says:

        Yes I Forgive You Lord In Jesus Name Amen!!

      2. Collins Davis mwesigwa says:

        Yes please I forgive and let go all my hurts and resentment.
        I really know that God loves me. And He is faithful to me and my family 👪
        He is going to bless me the more than never before since I have forgiven Him.

    2. **Long comment**
      I was brought to this exact point about 6 years ago with a gentle whisper: “You still haven’t forgiven me.” Now, I should have remembered that incident with Sarah BUT instead, I immediately denied that I would have anything to hold against him. Yet, in the next moment, the THING came to mind. You see, I had been forced to flee an abusive home with my children 8 years earlier. All I had was a directive from God to leave, a few clothes, and my important papers. With God’s help, I built a better life for my children during the 3.5 years that we were apart.

      Against all odds, I accomplished so much in that short period. I was rebuilding my credit after I was rehired by the bank I had resigned from 14 years earlier. I was hosting youth bible studies in my apartment. My anxiety and depression were improving, etc. My estranged husband’s efforts to sabotage (he stole our tax refund among other things) were continually revealed to me by God and we were protected at every turn. God even had me put him on my employee benefits after he had done so many evil things and was not providing for our children, or speaking to any of us.

      However, some of the fallout from the years of abuse began to snowball into rebelliousness in one of my teens while I worked long hours to provide. We were forced to move sooner than expected and before I had found a decent place. For several months, we went all over town viewing rentals and submitting applications to no avail. We fasted, prayed, and kept searching. After months of little communication, my estranged husband reached out again.

      He seemed oddly subdued and expressed his desire to have his family back. I didn’t trust him yet, so I started praying harder and kept looking for a home. He began to be helpful and to spend time with our children. As I applied for yet another rental, I was turned down. Every door was closed except the one suggested by a leasing agent: apply together. We were approved immediately. We signed a lease and moved back together as a family. I even helped him purchase a better vehicle so he could commute to his new job.

      Within weeks, the covert emotional and financial abuse began. Soon afterward the impact caused me to have severe health issues that became life-threatening. He sold our vehicle while I was at our daughter’s bedside in the hospital, and purchased a brand-new car in his name only. When I was forced to resign from my job due to illness and lost my benefits, he did not add me to his insurance plan. He also stopped paying the rent until we were finally evicted. In the end, he abandoned us in that empty apartment on eviction day. Everything that I had built was systematically destroyed. I was forced to start over with my kids yet again, but this time I was also very ill.

      So, yes, I had carried that hurt for several years. How could God allow circumstances to force me back into proximity to my adversary so he could carry out his revenge, especially after all that he had done over the years??!
      That day when God prompted me about forgiving him was a turning point for me. He had led me through a divorce just 6 months earlier; it went smoothly and was not as traumatic as I had feared because my ex was hiding to avoid paying child support. I never had to face him again. But deep down I was still hurt that Abba had let me and my children be hurt again. I still didn’t have all of the answers to my “why?” questions but I realized that my history with God had proven that, unlike mankind, I could trust him no matter what. So, I audibly forgave him and asked him to forgive me for accusing him of wrongdoing. He wasn’t angry with me at all. That made me cry even harder.

      Six months later, he introduced me to the husband that He had chosen for me: he is a man who loves God and because of that can love me, my grown children, and my grandson. I learned that it was the abuse that had broken the covenant, not my departure or the divorce.

    3. Sandy Goldmintz says:

      Yes I know He’s a good good Father and although we often feel at times the way David did when He was in trouble. God never leaves not forsakes us. I have at times felt forgotten and abandoned but I know these are lies , He is working everything out and He holds The Blueprints!

    4. Paul Israel says:

      Yes I was very bitter against God because my father was a faithful pastor, serving Jesus Christ day and night. A humble, good, and loving servant of God. But when he fell sick, he was taken to the hospital, and as I’m writing now I’m feeling angry against God. The doctors told us to give 500 Us dollars for operation but we didn’t have money so it took us time to look for money and we prayed seriously but God didn’t answer us. My father died without being operated and it was when we have got 400 us dollars. My question was is God really a good master? Does he really care about his servants? Does he use his servants as tools but when they get problems he dumps them? This is how God disappoints his workers? The commander who was described in 1 Samuel 30 who dumped his servant is he the image of Jesus Christ? I’m even now very angry against God. But if you say that we should forgive God, i choose to forgive him now.

    5. Charlotte Fischer says:

      These words helped me so much. Thanks Jamie! For many years I struggled with situations that I didn’t understand. Personal promises from God that have turned out to be completely opposite and I haven’t heard anything else from God about them. Today I really examined my heart and forgave God for allowing these inexplicable things to happen to me and find great peace in it and the knowledge that he will make everything right for me. Thank you very much and God bless you abundantly, dear sister in Christ!

    6. I have been praying for my family and forgiveness for almost a decade. Many prayer request have been submitted, and yet, I am still estranged from my daughter, and blamed by her for her life…I have learned all sorts of new terms like enmeshed, co-dependent, etc, and while I wanted my marriage to work, because I thought it would have ‘helped’ my kids..the train wreck of their lives is still unfolding (her with her mom). Trusting that God has this, has been the most difficult thing ever attempted. Forgiving God…stands next to it. God, in Your son’s name, please help me to forgive, to trust, and please help Ashley, I miss her, and want her to be healthy. Guide me in what I should do, perhaps I need to fast? Please help us all, and draw us all to you.

    7. I needed to forgive God, I expected Him to heal my son, who was lying in a coma. I felt God did not answer my prayer and save his life. I was deeply disappointed in God and angry. I was with my son all week, praying for him, to come out of the coma and be healed. I felt God let me down. This was back in 2014. I did forgive God but it took a year .

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